- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Bees, I would be forever in your debt if you can help me figure out how to word our invites so as not to hurt anyone’s feelings. Here’s the situation:
My fiance’s dad died when Fiance was 8 years old, and his mom is remarried to a man (we’ll call him Bob) who is only about 5-6 years older than us. So my fiance doesn’t consider him his stepfather, and has made that very clear. It does hurt Bob’s feelings, because he’s a really good guy and has done a lot for us, but Fiance can’t help how he feels. He likes Bob fine, but doesn’t view him as a father figure because he’s so close to our age.
Another aspect: hiis mom and Bob are helping to pay for the food. Since my parents have to travel, they aren’t contributing. The rest will be paid for by me.
I considered writing, “Together with their parents, blah blah blah” but it would really hurt my mother not to have her name on the invitations, even though she isn’t hosting or paying.
So then I thought of writing “daughter of” and “son of” after our names, but we can’t do that of course because Fiance doesn’t see Bob as his father. Writing “son of [mother’s firstname newlastname] and the late [dad’s firstname lastname]” could be fine, except it entirely leaves out Bob, which I don’t think is right.
ARGH! He might just have to suck it up and allow “son of [Mom’s firstname] and [Bob Lastname] and the late [Dad’s Firstname Lastname].”
Any other Bees been there? Or just chime in with your own complicated family invitation experience! 🙂