Post # 1
I’m in a quandry as to how to word the beginning of our invitations. My parent’s are still married and are paying for a portion of the wedding. My FI’s parent’s are divorced, his father remarried and we are adament about including all five parents in the beginning, but not sure how to do it. The wedding is on the informal side.
This is what I was thinking (without the proper spacing):
Mr. and Mrs. (my parents)
Mr. and Mrs. (my FI’s father and step-mother)
Ms. (My FI’s mother)
My mom says that might hurt my FI’s mother’s feelings because it singles her out as the only non-married one. She also thinks that the whole title thing is too formal.
So this was option 2:
(my mom) and (my dad) (last name)
(FIs mother), (FI’s step-mother) and (FIs father)
Are either of these even close to the way it should be?
Post # 3
@renwoman: I ran into this same issue when I was doing our invitations…its hard when you have multiple sets of parents. I have my parents and my bio dad and step mom, FI has his dad and step mom(not close with them) and mom. Finally we decided to do this:
Mr. and Mrs. Brides parents
request your presence as their daughter
exchange marriage vows.
I have my full name listed on the invitation (with both bio dad and dad’s last names).
To involve FI’s mom, we’re planning a surprise rose ceremony for her during the ceremony. Unfortunately there was no good way to handle it…but we decided that was our best option of the ones we came up with.
Post # 4
We’re doing “together with their families” to get rid of this whole dilimma (well, and because we have various family members contributing to the wedding). However, since you are adament about including the names, here’s my two-cents:
In option 1, all the &s bug me (I’m a teacher) … when making a list you only use and once! I think that it would be better to follow this grammar rule and just use a comma to separate the first two.
Since you said that your wedding is on the informal side, option 2 seems like it would work well. However, it seems like you want the titles (I’m having a hard time with my informal wedding too about when to use titles and when not to).
Do your parents have to go first? What if you did:
Ms. FI’s mom, Mr. and Mrs. FI’s dad and stepmom,
Mr. and Mrs. Your Parents
To me at least, this makes your FI’s mom stand out less … and it’s grammatically correct!
Post # 5
Thank you for the great suggestions we finally settled on “The families of….” it’s so much easier (plus our printer was going to have make the font of the entire invite smaller to accomodate everyone’s names, no need to send out magnifiers with the invites now!).