Post # 1
Hi I’m new. Don’t know if I’ll post very often but I can’t seem to find the answer to my question so I thought I’d at least try you ladies!
My parents aren’t together, but aren’t legally divorced. They have been living separately for 2 years. (Divorce has been talked about, but they’re very civil, and it got complicated with an insurance issue so they’re waiting until my dad’s insurance is up.) Anyway.. My mom has the same last name as my dad. My dad is dating someone, but obviously neither of them are remarried because they aren’t even divorced yet.
I definitely want my parents names on my invites, a lot of people we’re inviting know me as “joe’s daughter” or “sue’s daughter” so its important to have their names to associate me with.
How do I put their names on the invites, without making them seem married. I know “Mr. & Mrs. Joe Smith” is out.. But doesn’t “Mr. Joe Smith and Ms. Sue Smith” seem awkward?
Oh, and my dad is paying for everything.
I can’t seem to find the answer to this anywhere, and my parents don’t really know what’s appropriate either.. So you ladies would be a huge help! Thanks in advance.
Post # 3
I think Mr. Joe Smith and Ms. Sue Smith is actually the best way to word it. It’s not much more wordy than than Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith, and it also conveys that they are your parents but not necessarily married. If I received an invitation worded that way, I don’t think I would find it awkward or inappropriately worded.
Post # 4
I’ve seen it like:
Mr. Joe Smith
and Ms. Amy Smith (separate lines and the “Ms.” for the mother)
request the honor of your presence…
I’m sure that extreme traditionalists would say that you shouldn’t use such wording unless the parents are legally divorced and that you technically wouldn’t include mom in the hostess line since she isn’t helping to pay for the wedding, but there’s traditional and then there’s what makes sense for you. So since it’s important for you to honor both parents on the invite and to convey that they aren’t married, then I think the above would be fine. You *could* also eliminate the “Mr.” and “Ms.” if you want, but it would then switch the tone of the invite to something more informal.
Post # 5
Actually I just Googled it and Jenny is right… you can say Mr. Joe Smith and Ms. Sue Smith and just separate them on different lines with your father’s name first since he is paying.