(Closed) invite wording question, need answers ASAP so I can order invites

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Go to verseit.com; they have a ton of verses you can choose from. 

Post # 4
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Does it give you an option to put in a line after the grooms name?

son of John and Mary Smith

Post # 5
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


I included both sets of parents although some are not contributing at all and some help a lot (my parents are also divorced, mom doesnt have $ so she can’t help and dad gave a lot, FH parents gave some $ and helping  a lot with purchases) I listed everyone’s names 🙂  

Post # 6
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Etiquette usually says that whoever pays, gets their name on the invite.  And more traditionally, since the Bride’s family usually takes care of the wedding, it’s their parents names. 


I did a search on the knot’s invite feature and came up with some of these:

Ms. Heather Marie Smith
Mr. Michael Francis Jacobson
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith &
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jacobson
request the pleasure of your company


Or you could do like:

The parents of __Bride_ & _Groom_ request the pleasure of your company… etc


Post # 7
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

ours said my name his name and third line “together with their parents” basically acknowleding everyone

Post # 8
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I did:

Dr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents (married)
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter




son of Mr. Grooms Dad
and Mrs. Grooms Mom (divorced)

This makes it so that the bride’s parents are doing the inviting- and thus indicating their monetary involvement. But it also reconginzes the groom’s parents.

Post # 10
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know you said you don’t want to word it “together with their parents” but, i think that is the best way so no one gets offended although they are not contributing money to your wedding they should still have a place on the invitation. After all they are the people who birthed and raised your fiance into the wonderful man you are going to be marrying. I felt the same way about my invitations beacuse my parents are practically paying for the whole wedding and his parents aren’t paying a penny towards wedding costs. But, in the end i know they are not financially in the position to help but, still deserve some recognition.

Post # 12
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Yep, we did “son of…” in order to honor his parents. I hate to say it, but if it’s so important to your Fiance to have his parents’ names, would you consider tweaking the invite layout?

I’m not suggesting to start all over, I’m just suggesting that maybe the importance of the mention of his parents merits a re-evaluation of the layout.

Post # 14
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@CountryBee11: Hard to say since you know them better than we do. Because they’re not contributing financially, etiquette says it’s okay for them not to be included. So I guess it’s just a matter of how you think they will receive it. Sorry that’s not helpful!

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