"invite you to the marriage of their children"

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: It makes me think:
    Aw, thats nice that they included their parents. : (27 votes)
    22 %
    Indifferent, just the traditional wording. : (49 votes)
    39 %
    It sounds immature, like they are young or not contributing. : (46 votes)
    37 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    825 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t mind it — and we’ll probably be using it. We’re contributing, my Mom’s contributing, and I’m not in the business of offending my future inlaws so they’ll be included on the invitation as well. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    3016 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

    I prefer “invite you to the marriage of their daughter, _____, and son, ________.”

    I do think the word “children” puts “childish” on the table. But I’m not sure I’d actually think that if I received an invitation with that wording; it might be just that I’m focusing on it here.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Seems like every invitation I’ve ever gotten? I’d say it’s definitely the norm that I’ve seen. Our invites say at the marriage of their daughter… to … son of..

    I mean they are their children I don’t see how that’s childish it’s just what they are. 

     

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t think it’s weird to say that the parents are inviting the guests, I just assume that means they are the hosts and therefore are paying for the wedding. We will probably use similar wording to recognize the fact that my parents have been incredibly generous and are paying for almost the entire wedding. I would feel kind of bad to take the credit as hostess in that case!

    That specific wording seems kinda weird to me though – “invite you to the marriage of their children” made me do a double take at first and make me think it was siblings getting married 😛

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    5460 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree that using the word “children” may lend itself to thinking “childish” along with it.  We said “Together with our families” or something like that to include everyone, but I think @prahajess: ‘s suggestion to use the words “son” and “daughter” is more appropriate than using “children”

    Post # 8
    Member
    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @prahajess:  For some reason using the words “marriage of their children” sounds odd to me. It instinctively sounds like siblings are marrying to me. My parents are paying for the wedding and we did “Mr and Mrs. X invite you to the marriage of their daughter Bride to Groom”. 

    If it sounds immature that we aren’t paying for it…welll haha I don’t know what to say to that. My parents are hosting so they are named.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @peaseblossom:  I prefer Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents together with Mr. and Mrs. Grooms Parents invite you to celebrate/attend/whatever the wedding/marriage/union/whatever of Bride and Groom.

    You can easily avoid calling yourself a child.  It will be obvious that you’re their children by the shared names and the fact that everyone your’e inviting knows who you are!

    Post # 10
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @peaseblossom:  In french it would definitely sound very juvenile to say ”children”. I would rather indicate, if both sets of parents were hosting, ”daughter” and ”son”. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ours listed our parents, because they graciously offered to pay for it, so we were obligated to list them.  However, we did not refer to us as children, we are in our upper 20s!  Again, they wanted to pay for the wedding, so leaving them off was not an option we would consider.

    Post # 12
    Member
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We used “Together with their families”.  I wouldn’t want to be called a child at 31…even though I still am their child. 

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @peaseblossom:  I would assume that your parents are paying for the wedding.  

    My dad & step mom and FH’s parents are contributing about 20% of the budget (my mother is not contributing).  We weren’t going to include mention of parents at all but that felt a little weird so we opted for ‘Together with their parents….’

    Post # 14
    Member
    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We did “Together with their parents, my name and FI’s name invite you….”

    Post # 15
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    All it makes me think is that mom and dad paid for the wedding.  In some families it’s traditional for the parents to foot the bill so I don’t really judge the couple based on it.

    Post # 16
    Member
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Other – parents are hosting, nbd. 

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