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Are you all closer to one of them than the other? eek, I'm just not sure on this one!
not really....I was closer to the girl at one point but now it's kinda the same
I would suggest that you call them and ask them separately if they would still like to attend the wedding. The last thing you want at your wedding and/or reception is a scene. If they are both sure that they can enjoy the day and play nice in the sandbox...why not invite them both separately..
Personally as being one who had a husband who cheated on her, I would ask the person who kept their wedding vow to come and call that person and send the invite to them. Not the one who broke the vow. I don't believe both should be there since there is the chance it might not be amicable.
But then again, that's just me. I am sorta biased since it happened to me. I would appreciate a phone call, if I were her though.
After it happened to me, people were seriously afraid to even ask me to their weddings as they were fearful or something that I'd break into tears during their ceremony. I had a few tell me after the fact that they didn't invite me b/c they didn't want me to feel hurt. But had they given me a phone call and gotten my side, I think it would have been much better but I love those folks anyway.
we had this happen! well, except I don't know of cheating, or at least they didn't tell me if there was!
honestly, I didn't handle it all that well, as I kind of took the "they should decide" approach, but now I wish I would've handled it by calling them, which I thought would be awkward, but reality was more awkward...don't even get me started on seating chart implications! hehe
Oy! Seating charts; I hadn't even thought of that. I think you should call and politely tell both of them separately that you would like both of them to attend, but only if they are comfortable doing so.
Considering your wedding is a year away I wouldn't worry about it right now. Closer to the time when you are doing your invites I think it will be clearer what to do. If they both got a STD and they are both your friends, I think etiquette says you'd invite both. It's so far away they could easily be re-partnered by then anyway. I wouldn't stress about it just yet, and if it's still not clear in a year's time, you can easily give them a call like everyone has suggested :)
I agree with moutain bride. It is a year away. When you send your invited in June/ July -ish, things might have changed.
thanks for all your great ideas....I will wait until it gets a little closer and see how they both are and if they are with someone else....I feel so terrible for the girl she is so hurt....they were together for 10 years prior to getting married :(
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so my FH n I invited a couple who are friends of ours but not close close friends. We just found out that the husband cheated on her and now they are divorcing. I already sent them a save the date. Now what do I do? Invite them seperately or alone or with a guest or only invite one of them? We are trying to keep within our budget as far as the list goes so I'm so unsure of what to do. Any ideas?