(Closed) Invited to a Bridal Shower of someone I never met…What to do?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have to admit I invited all the women to my bridal shower that were invited to the wedding bc I was afraid someone would get offended they weren’t invited. I don’t think you need to send a gift though I think she wouldn’t expect it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsPom:  I argee, I don’t expect a gift from any of my guests who can’t attend my shower.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You are not obligated to attend the shower or to send a gift.  And, you do not need to provide an explanation as to why you are not attending.  Just politely respond to the invitation, indicating that you will not be attending the shower.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I wouldnt

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Nope, no worries.  My FMIL is inviting lots of people I’ve never met to my showers, I won’t be offended in the least if none of them show!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Send a card? 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you absolutely need to send a gift!! If they went through the trouble to think of you and mail out an invite (unless its an e-vite) than you definitely need to send something. Go on her registry and pick out something small, and send a nice card. Its nice of her to acknowledge you, even if you’ve never met her. Personally, I wouldn’t feel right otherwise…

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

p.s. and dont feel obligated to attend the shower, i avoid it at all costs if i dont know a soul there!! because that would just be awkward. but seriously, send something.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not go. Not send a gift. Not send a card.

In all honesty? It sounds gift grabby. You’ve never met, right? Why are you going to meet her at the same time as buying her a gift? Just my opinion!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t worry about not being able to attend nor would I send a gift.  To me, this seems like a gift grab.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i agree, it sounds like a gift grab, but maybe send a card?

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I don’t feel that it is a git grab. She probably had every woman on her invitation list invited to a shower and wouldn’t want to leave you out just becuase she hasn’t met you yet. I do not think you need to send a gift, but I think it would be better if you did. I’d send something small, but I would send something.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

As someone who was wondering about inviting people so they would feel included vs. being ‘gift-grabby’, I’d say DO NOT feel obligated to send anything.  It’s better to assume she just wanted you to feel included. 

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