- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Good morning Bees!
I need some help with wording on our wedding website.
So FH and I are having our wedding and reception on 2 different days (the wedding is on the 28th and the reception is on the 29th) We both come from very large families and have a lot of close extended family (my aunts, uncles, cousins and cousins kids are 130 on their own!). When planning our wedding, our parents wanted to invite a lot of other people, such as their cousins, friends etc. We’re not close to them but it means a lot to them as we are both the babies of our family and this is the last wedding his parents are hosting, and the first my parents are hosting! This obviously started driving up our numbers.
What we decided to do was to invite only some guests to the reception (I know, a lot of you will disagree, but hear me out!)
We are having a large, open Hindu ceremony at a temple for everyone. What this usually entails is a very elaborate 1.5-2 hour long ceremony, followed by a vegetarian buffet and no alcohol. We will have our DJ play to entertain the guests so they can dance etc. We are expecting approximately 450 people.
The following day we will have our actual, formal reception with just close friends and our family (that alone is just over 300!). While we would like to have everyone at the reception, it’s just not financially feasible (hence the large, informal reception the day of the ceremony)
We are doing paper invitations with inserts for those who are invited to the reception. We have found that it’s easier to keep track of our RSVP’s, meal choices, food allergies etc by using a wedding website. Now while people can only RSVP to the events they are invited to, we are concerned that people will try to call us to RSVP to the reception once they see the date and location or show up.
Is there any advice you can give me on how to word it on our website so they get the idea to not try to RSVP for the reception unless invited? I don’t want to be rude but there really isn’t any other way we can make this work.