Post # 1
on very short notice. We just recieved our “official” invitation on Friday, and their wedding is this Saturday. We’ve accepted the invitation, but now I have a question, what kind of present is expected from last minute invitees? Clearly we weren’t planning on making a big purchase for their gift, and honestly don’t have the funds for a super nice present, but the Southern lady in me can’t show up empty handed. Is there a protocol for what is “expected” from last minute guests??
Post # 3
I would say a gift in the $20ish range would be acceptable. Maybe a bottle of wine & a nice card if you’re really on a budget.
Post # 4
picture frames are always nice
Post # 5
I’d suggest that Fiance find out if the coworkers “went in together” for an office gift. If it’s cash, and you aren’t opposed to giving money, the two of you could join that gift. If they haven’t purchased the BBQ grill yet, perhaps you and Fiance would like to join them… But even if they have already ordered a Ming Vase, you’ll at least have an idea of what they’ve thought was appropriate.
If no other coworkers have been invited, then I’d suggest that you consider a traditional style gift – a photo frame or something for the kitchen probably. (I find linens a tad personal for coworkers. And exes… though that’s another issue.)
Depending on your FI’s job status in relationship to his coworker’s (i.e. if the are peers, or if one is the other’s subordinate/there is a large and obvious differential in income) the wedding gift could politely range from a simple silver frame (which can be found rather inexpensively – around $20) to a card with cash/a gift card inside or a nicer small kitchen appliance (WITH gift receipt – how many blenders does one couple need?).
One last thing – you mention not wanting to “show up empty handed” – I assume that this is a phrase, and you intend to mail any gift or card that you decide to give the happy couple. It can be pretty inconvienent for them to try to get the gifts home from their wedding if you actually deliver the item to the reception… and I’m pretty sure they’d rather think about other things on their wedding night! 😉
Post # 6
You do have a full year to give a wedding gift and stay within proper etiquette, so you can always consider bringing just a card and purchasing a gift at a more convenient time financially. This of course depends on the size of the gift you’d normally like to give the couple, but if you’d wanted to do something a little more spendy, you have the time.