(Closed) Invited to FI's coworker's wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would say a gift in the $20ish range would be acceptable. Maybe a bottle of wine & a nice card if you’re really on a budget.

Post # 4
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

picture frames are always nice

Post # 5
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d suggest that Fiance find out if the coworkers “went in together” for an office gift. If it’s cash, and you aren’t opposed to giving money, the two of you could join that gift.  If they haven’t purchased the BBQ grill yet, perhaps you and Fiance would like to join them…  But even if they have already ordered a Ming Vase, you’ll at least have an idea of what they’ve thought was appropriate.

If no other coworkers have been invited, then I’d suggest that you consider a traditional style gift – a photo frame or something for the kitchen probably.  (I find linens a tad personal for coworkers.  And exes… though that’s another issue.)

Depending on your FI’s job status in relationship to his coworker’s (i.e. if the are peers, or if one is the other’s subordinate/there is a large and obvious differential in income) the wedding gift could politely range from a simple silver frame (which can be found rather inexpensively – around $20) to a card with cash/a gift card inside or a nicer small kitchen appliance (WITH gift receipt – how many blenders does one couple need?).

One last thing – you mention not wanting to “show up empty handed” – I assume that this is a phrase, and you intend to mail any gift or card that you decide to give the happy couple.  It can be pretty inconvienent for them to try to get the gifts home from their wedding if you actually deliver the item to the reception… and I’m pretty sure they’d rather think about other things on their wedding night! 😉

Post # 6
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You do have a full year to give a wedding gift and stay within proper etiquette, so you can always consider bringing just a card and purchasing a gift at a more convenient time financially. This of course depends on the size of the gift you’d normally like to give the couple, but if you’d wanted to do something a little more spendy, you have the time.

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