Invited to wedding: formal attire, evening, NYC – help me shop?

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Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@kerensa:  what silhouette do you like best? strapless, one shoulder, etc?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@kerensa:  are you looking to stay with darker colors also because it’s fall?

 

 ETA also, what’s the budget?

 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oooh, you have SO many fun possibilities! I would definitely go long.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@BrandNewBride:  +1.

Agree you should definitely go with a longer length dress. I think it would make your dress more elegant not to mention it may be warmer! If you don’t want to buy a super formal dress you may not wear again, you can try renting them. There are tons of sites. My sister uses Rent the Runway and loves it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have you ever tried Rent the Runway? Lots of designer formal dresses there

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Sue Wong @ Bloomingdales is fun to wear for Fall Formal weddings.

Jenny Packham if your budget is a little bit bigger is always good too!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had a ‘black tie optional’ wedding in NYC in May. Half the women wore long dresses and half wore short fancy cocktail gowns.  No one wore a ‘gown’ (except me!)

I love wearing jewel tones – deep purples, blues, and reds. My favorite is Lauren by Ralph Lauren. Super flattering on any woman with curves.  

If your FI is wearing a suit and not a tux, I’d stay away from a long sequined dress or something similar.

Or

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@CityBearBride:  NOT to hijack but I was a +1 for my now FI’s brother’s wedding and it was semi-formal but I thought it was black tie because I asked the FI if it was black tie and he said “YES” assuming I was asking if HE was wearing a black tie (and I knew he was wearing a tux as best man.)

So we get to this freaking wedding in NEBRASKA that is NOT anywhere near black tie and I’m in this full-length, gold beaded Sue Wong gown.   Jesus.  I wanted to crawl under the table.  Totally looked like I was trying to upstage the bride (even though I wasn’t) and got some nasty looks from BMs and had lots of people compliment on my dress but now that I think about it…they were more backhanded, most likely.

Frick – never again.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@kerensa:  I am also pale and since I am petite I try to stay away from lighter colors and instead tend to wear bolder jewel tones like emerald and amethyst.  I would recommend a long dress so you look more dressed up plus there is an elegance factor when you wear a long gown.  Do you have a Macy’s or Nordstrom’s nearby?  I would go and try some stuff on in their formal section.  With a budget of $300 you should be set.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think “formal” means you should wear a long gown.  You could, but I also think a dressier cocktail dress (think a bit of bling/beading) would be 100% appropriate.

There will likely be more women there in cocktail dresses than long gowns.

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