(Closed) Invited without an invitation?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Bananas!

Honestly, I think you’ve exhausted all the routes that I could think of. I’d just plan on going, it sounds pretty reasonable. And you already have airfare!

I’d probably send her a hand-written note via USPS mail just saying that you are so excited and looking forward to the wedding, and to let you know if she needs help with anything. Everyone opens mail, even if she’s wedding’d out!

Post # 4
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Sounds like some got lost in the mail!  I would send a note as well, make sure she knows you’re coming.  Wierd….

Post # 5
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re going to FI’s uncle’s wedding on Monday night. We never received an invitation, despite the bride having a stack of them at Thanksgiving that she took with her when they left.  Some people are just oblivious. Maybe she thought you had all the details? Or that your parents would tell you?

Post # 6
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I just had a wedding invite returned to me today. I mailed it out November 1st. It took almost 2 months to get returned to me. When I contacted the intended recipient last week about his RSVP he said he hadn’t received the invite. Now I see why. Another invite was lost in the mail and at least 6 RSVP cards that were mailed out never made it to me. My point? Clearly the mail is not reliable especially around the holidays. The bride might not even know your invite has been lost. I am pretty sure you’re invited by the sound of things. You can see if she contacts you after the RSVP deadline.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vorpalette:  Your FI’s getting married on Monday?

 

@NAvery:  +1. I never would have thought to mail a handwritten note but its a really good idea. Plus I’m pretty sure people used to RSVP on their own stationary instead of on an RSVP card.

Post # 8
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@asscherlover:  LOL oops. FI’s UNCLE. I’ll fix that. 😉

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vorpalette:  Just checking. I wouldn’t want your FI to marry someone other than you, unless you’re ok with it (which I suppose you would be if you planned on attending the wedding 😉 ).

Post # 11
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4322 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sportsgal31:  About the gift – give what you are comfortable giving, but don’t punish her for a lost invitation or for her own financial situation when you got married (she was probably budgeting for a wedding when you got married, also).

She hasn’t been bratty directly to you or DH as far as I can tell from your posts, so again, don’t punish her for that.  Gifts are gifts, not rewards or punishments.

I can understand giving less for other reasons, – such as, you’ll be traveling to the DW, which can be expensive, you’re trying to stick to a budget, etc.

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