Post # 1
Oh, first draft invite list, how I long to see you again….Our initial guest list had a lovely 115 guests. Tops.
Now, after MIL has gotten on hand on it, we are up to 164 adults and 10 kids. And that’s with efforts made to curtail it!
In one specific example, we are inviting a husband/wife who are family friends. They have 3 adults sons also, but they were NOT INVITED as we are not very closely with them.
The invited wife is not able to attend; however, I learned that her sons are all vying for their mother’s “spot”…who does that?!
Have any of you dealt with this? And, how did you approach it OR how would you recommend we approach it?
We haven’t officially sent out invites yet but I am afraid this will be an issue when I get the RSVP to TWO back (when I know the wife will be out of the country for our wedding).
On a brighter note, just 124 days til THIS sort of stuff is over (at least I’d like to think so).
Post # 3
Oh that is tricky.. in my option, you are inviting the couple, if you invite it to Mr & Mrs Bee then they are the only ones to be considered. If Mrs Bee can’t make it then Mr Bee has the option to bring a different plus one (not two).. now if it said the Bee Family, that would be a different story. Hopefully your guests repect what was on their invite.
Post # 4
I think this is definitely “Let it go” territory. It is inappropriate, but not wildly so. And also pretty rare. Let the guy bring one of his adult sons. I don’t see any harm coming of it, so long as they don’t start pulling crazy stuff like trying to bring extra people.
ETA: This is assuming the sons are polite people who you don’t have a problem with.
Post # 5
Based on the comments already being made, I’m not sure you’re going to be able to avoid crazy people, almost everyone has a poor guest ettiquete situation. Technically the people that the invitation is addressed to are the ones invited, people don’t seem to understand that though so for ours, we also put “we have reserved x number of seats” on our RSVP cards. We didn’t have much of an issue with people asking who and how many were invited.