should invitations have declines or rsvps

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m not clear on what you’re asking… you’re thinking about not having guests respond? How on earth would you get a guest count that way? 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve only ever been invited to one wedding that said “declines only,” but I think it depends on the type of wedding you’re having. Can you describe the type of wedding?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t do that because I had a lot of people just not respond (and most of the non responders were declines). So if you say “declines only” you won’t know if someone isn’t responding because they forgot or if they are actually coming. I think you would end up with a lot of extra food.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t do declines only, that’s for sure! There are some people we just never heard from despite following up with them many Times, so I am going to assume they are not Coming. If you do declines only, you will be assuming all of those people are going to show, as well as people who potentially have forgotten about the invitation. Seems like you would get more no-shows. And if you are having a sit down dinner how would you know their food choices?

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Bunni0929:  mostly rsvps. it’s easier to plan for food this way.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I did RSVP by X date, and on the form there’s an “Attending” “Not Attending” section. Done and done.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I skipped them and sort of wish we hadn’t . I figured people would not send them back but a lot of our guests asked why we didn’t have them.

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