Post # 1
I’m pretty sure I already know the answer to this, but….
We’ve already got a few people who have received our STDs or heard about our wedding and have told us that unfortunately they can’t make it. I’m super bummed and it’s mostly family, so my question then is, do we still send them an invitation knowing that they won’t be coming? Or would a personal note or email to them be acceptable in lieu of an invite? We’ve only ordered a certain number of invites and should we need to go to everyone on our ‘B’ list we might need to have more made which of course means more $$…oh, and just to clarify, these are definitely not going to turn into yes’s as it’s family who is in the military who can’t get leave, or those moving out of the country just a couple months before.
Post # 3
You should definitely send them invites as a courtesy
Post # 4
i have a similar situation and we decided to still give them invitation. i want to make them feel part of it and to show them that we still have hope to have their presence in our wedding.
but at the end it will be your decision
Post # 5
I’m really interested in the same thing.. lots of family in Australia, and if they are saying they can’t make it, they definitely can’t… curious what other people say too??
Post # 6
I’m going to say we typically still sent people an invitation even if they’d said they couldn’t previously. The one person we didn’t, we’d kind of heard was a no, and were going to send him an invite, but when I emailed him to ask for his address, he told me directly not to bother as he wasn’t going to be able to make it, and didn’t provide his address. That particular day I didn’t feel like writing back and being like… oh, well we’d still like to send you an invite to make you feel included! kind of thing, so I just left it at that.
Post # 7
My cousin who lives out of state is preggers and is due the week of the wedding so she obviously can’t make it. I just sent her an e-mail saying that I know she can’t come and she will be missed but congrats and we are so excited for her. I thought that was okay as she might get bummed when she gets the invite and can’t go.
When I was preggers we got an invite to a friends wedding and assumed we did not need to rsvp no because when he called for our address we told him we couldn’t. Same situation, out of state and the day before my due date. He called and said we didn’t get your rsvp. my FH was like yeah… i told you she’s due the day after. his response was, well you can still come right? Um no!