Post # 1
So we found out tonight that one of FH’s groomsmen didn’t get his invite in the mail – they were mailed more than 4 weeks ago.
I’ve heard from lots of people that they got them, and we have about 30% of our RSVPs back already. What should I do? Do I wait until the RSVP deadline (1 month before the wedding) before checking with people? We did send out STDs about 8 months ago – but i know some of those didn’t arrive either (the GM did get his)
Post # 2
Hmmm provided your RSVP deadline isn’t RIGHT before the wedding, I would probably wait until the RSVP deadline and then start calling people. In the meantime if you see/talk to people that are invited ask them if they got the invite. You can let them know what’s going on so they don’t feel like you’re rushing them before the deadline.
Post # 3
MsGinkgo: I wouldn’t wait until your rsvp date. It would be very short notice for anyone to make plans if they wanted to attend
Do you have everyone’s email addresses? I would send a group email to those from whom you have not already received rsvp’s “We found out that some of our wedding invitaions have not been received. If you get this email and did not receive an invitation, please let us know asap.”
Post # 4
I swear the USPS hates brides. One of my 1st daughter’s invitations went missing (hand cancelled at the PO) – it never came back in the return mail, either. One took 8 days, to get to my cousin, who lives 2 hours away.
One of my 2nd daughter’s Save the Dates disappeared. The groom’s uncle had no idea he was getting married. And when I mailed the shower invitations (I mail all wedding related things directly from the post office), one dissapeared that had to go 2 miles, and the groom’s grandmother’s took 12 days, to go from Philadelphia to Pittsburgh.
Therefore, we had to e-mail, call, or text everyone, who was invited to the shower, to see if they got their invitations. It may be a no-no, but I’m handing out wedding invitations, when guests leave the shower, and mailing as few as possible. I’ve had it!
Post # 5
julies1949: I don’t unfortunately.
It’s really weird, we had invites going to NL, NB, NS, ON, AB, and New York and Cali.
I’ve already had back the RSVP from Cali (It was back in less than 10 days), I know that the majority of my family got theirs, they’ve told me/commented on them.
I don’t want to make people feel pressured to send them back which is why I’m worried about contacting people too early.
Post # 6
I think making sure that everyone got their invites is ok. You don’t want someone to be offended who you invited all the sudden think they are no longer invited. I would reach out and ask everyone. My parents got their invite 3 weeks later then everyone and it was all broken and sad looking. Some of our friends didn’t get it so I was glad I investigated. I was mad cause I spend $7 an invite. Was a glass message in a bottle with sand and sea shellto for our destination wedding.
Post # 7
MsGinkgo: You could still find ways to contact people (phone? facebook?) this is kind of a big deal. I think how you say it will make it clear that it’s about the lost invitations and not about them rsvp-ing asap. I think julies had a great statement that you could use.
Post # 8
nawella: bananchik: the other thing is I’m ‘worried’ that if i email/message/text/call people I’ll get RSVPs all sorts of ways instead of actually getting the cards back – I really want the cards back. I know I should just be happy to get the replies, I just don’t want to start getting scattered RSVPs in all sorts of media that I have to try and keep track of – I like having my shoebox of silver envelopes that i can check…
STUPID CANADA POST – grrrrrrrr
Post # 9
MsGinkgo: that is a grrr… do you have a spreadsheet on your computer of your guests? could help!
Post # 10
nawella: I do, I’m a spreadsheet fiend.
I just emailed a few people – and 2 bounced back, I don’t email people…apparently my address book is out of date.
Post # 11
well – so far the people who’ve answered have said they got them so maybe the GM did get his and they forgot or maybe it’s the one off that was lost.
I’m hoping I don’t have to send out a ton of replacements :/