- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
I’ve been on these boards for about a month and a half now, and the story is still the same… I’m not yet engaged. But talking to my SO, the proposal should be coming in the next few weeks.
We’ve already decided that we would send STDs in November, since we’re doing a small destination wedding – a 14-30 hour drive for most of our guests, otherwise a definite $500 round-trip flight. We put together an initial guest list a few weeks ago, putting 41 on the primary guest list. Ideally, I would like 20-25 people there. We could easily add about 10 more people onto the guest list based on current developing friendships and reconnections … and the venue limit is 48. We still need to find photographers (2 more people), and we are going to ask of our guests would officiate the wedding. That sets us at 53 people for a 48-person venue.
We’ve already talked about who would likely not come, which includes the 8 family members immediately, likely another 11 friends, which would put us at 34. But here’s the kicker, there is ALWAYS conflict in my SO’s family. We don’t know if my FMIL would actually show up, which could bring the guest list down by 4, and she has a conflict with her oldest daughter… preventing my FSIL and her family to show up (3). This leaves 27, then a few more wildcards in there to be safe – basically we don’t feel that loved, so our hopes aren’t high that many people will come.
I’ve read a lot on here that you should not invited more than your venue can hold, but I’m very concerned about who will actually come. I do NOT want to drop below 20 guests (the minimum), and I wouldn’t mind a guest list closer to 30.
My question is, should I invite a few more guests as cushion? I have a few aunts that were asking to come last Xmas, and I don’t want to leave out people who I consider myself friends with where we currently live, but we only see each other on occasion. Any advice or suggestions?
Thank you in advance! I’m sorry about all the logisitics… you can imagine how scrambled my head gets thinking about this.