Post # 1
So just a couple of weeks ago I gave my MOH’s a list for my invites to my showers. That was absolutely the hardest thing I’ve done yet. Sounds crazy, but true story. I kind of feel like by inviting them, I’m asking them for a gift. But at the same time if I don’t invite someone (those guest in particular that I KNOW can barely make ends meet to feed their children) then they’ll get their feelings hurt.
It’s done and over and invites have been sent, but I guess I’m just in awe at how hard it really was. I figured there’d be nothing to it. Maybe I just ‘over-thunk’ it? Lol
Post # 3
I think you aren’t overthinking it. A bridal shower is basically to “shower” the couple with gifts, so you are asking for gifts when you send out the invites to it. People understand that it’s part of a tradition and hopefully if they can’t afford it, they will go small or just send a card.
Post # 4
Invite lists are always difficult
Post # 5
Well the whole point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts…so I think youre just overthinking it! No one is going to think “Oh she just invited me to get another gift”!
Post # 6
@jayelcee85: I felt the same way about making my list. I know that technically you are supposed to invite all/most of the the women who are invited to the wedding but I adjusted the list accordingly. It was a tough call for me too. I totally understand where you are coming from.
Post # 7
I felt exactly the same way and decided not to have a bridal shower at all.
Post # 8
I understand. I had a hard time deciding whether the girls from work should be invited to the shower. I didn’t want it to be awkward and seem gift-grabby. But I really want them to come to the bachelorette and wedding, so my bridesmaids decided they would invite them to the shower too.
One friend from work just told me she can’t come to the shower. I told her it’s not a problem at all and that I hope she can make it to the bachelorette party.
Post # 9
Good. I know the purpose is to receive gifts, but at the same time it just made me feel like I’m asking for gifts. I tried to avoid the whole thing, but my sister wouldn’t have it.
Post # 10
I am working on the invite list for my bridal shower. I really uncomfortable about having a shower and did not want it but my bridesmaid insisted. I am inviting people from work and it feels like I am gift grabbing. I don’t have any family to invite so it is so akward. I had to invite someone so I am inviting coworkers. I get knots in my stomach just thinking about it.