(Closed) Invites: Use your real name or nickname?

posted 10 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

I ran across this when I had to address my invites. So for relatives with nicknames, I’d put…

Legal first name "known-as name or nickname" last name.

I think it also depends on the formality of the wedding. Although making sure everyone knows who is sending the invite is a good idea.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I know you don’t want to post your whole name – but I really think it is how you should base your decision.  I think it should go first name nickname something last name.    First and nickname should definitely be on there, but you can edit the middle name (leave out, use initial based on what you think will flow better.   I would not use a slash between your first and nickname.  And your given name should come first.

Just think – I can’t write my own name wrong.  Type it a couple ways and see what looks better.   

Post # 6
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Helper bee

How about you put your legal name on the invitations, but make sure the return address on the envelopes has your nickname? That way everyone will know who it’s from, but you’ll have the more formal version on your invites.

Post # 7
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Newbee

briannie – i didn’t put my chinese name on the invite…if i put my chinese and american name, it’ll be too long…but i did do a chinese insert which includes my chinese name….

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Wouldn’t people know you by your last name too? Maybe I’m being too "American" here and your last name is common in your culture.

You could do Real Name (Nickname) Last Name. I’ve seen that done. One of our friends even had his name be (I have no idea how he convinced his FI to allow this): First "The Hammer" Last. We died laughing when we saw that. 

Do what you want. The days of having to follow the rules are over.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

Right, I thought it could apply to you as well.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Could you hyphenate your first name on the invites? 

A


– Annie Middlename Lastname

or maybe put A—- Middlename Lastname on the invite itself and maybe on the RSVP or other insert say something to the effect of

"We’re excited to celebrate with you!
Love, Annie and Futurehubby"

That way you get both without being terribly confusing… although, maybe that just makes it more confusing.  I think, personally, I’d get it, though.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m just winging it here, but can you do two sets of invitations, one with each name?  If you are either DIY-ing or don’t have a really small guest list (such that you would have fewer than 50 of each) its probably possible. 

Otherwise I would put your legal name first, your nickname second, and maybe skip your middle name if the four names together seem too long for the invitation format.  Then your situation isn’t that different (for half your guests) from someone who just goes by their middle name, which is pretty common in my family.  Sometimes I do have to read the invitations twice to figure out who is getting married!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Well, if you both end up with four names on the invite, then it will be perfectly symmetrical, yes?  I actually have two middle names, but am just using one on the invite (I think) because they are both long, and FI’s first and middle names are really short, and he thought I was getting more than my fair share of space or something with all the names. 

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