Post # 1
My friend and I were talking the other day about an invite we got to our super good friends wedding. Mine was addressed to Mr.TKE and Ms.AXiD. My friend’s was addressed Ms.GG and Guest. We both thought that was extremely considerate considering 1. she wasn’t expecting that and 2. she hasn’t seriously dated anyone ing 3+ years.
Ms.GG then asked me: oh Ms.AXiD what do I do? I know I would like to be able to bring a date but I have no one to bring.
Ok. The wedding isn’t until August 7 and RSVP is July 6. Should she wait to send it back in hopes she may find someone to go with, reply back for 2 now and let our friend know later if that changes, or reply back 1 now and leave it at that?
I told her reply back 1 now and leave it at that because even if she did find someone before July 6 are they really going to be serious enough to go to a wedding together?
Post # 3
Does she have a friend that could go with her?
Post # 4
All of the her girl-friends are already invited to the wedding. There really are no guy friends to speak of.
Post # 5
If she was being invited to a wedding where she didn’t really know anyone else, I would suggest taking a friend as the +1. But if she’s not seeing anyone that she’d want to take to the wedding, and all her friends will be there anyway, then I’d just reply back 1, rather than trying to find a date just to be able to use the +1. I don’t know the bride and groom (obviously), but finding out they won’t have to pay for an extra person they don’t know might be a welcome surprise.
Post # 6
I would say wait until July 6. We all like to get replies back early, but if they put July 6 as the deadline then they don’t really need to know until then.
Post # 7
If you don’t have a person to invite, then just reply for yourself as a single guest and leave it at that. Most couples cannot afford +1’s nor do they want to pay for random strangers whom they will never see again and don’t care about them. At the same time, you shouldn’t be dependent on finding a friend to take with you to someone else’s party so that you are able to enjoy yourself, since that is a life skill that every adult (and young adult/teen) needs to learn.
Post # 8
If she would like to have someone to go with, I’d suggest just waiting a little while and see how things go. If July 6 rolls around and she still doesn’t have someone she wants to ask, she can just reply back for 1. She should just be sure to reply by that deadline so she doesn’t drive the bride crazy!
Post # 9
A few years ago a high school friend of mine got married. At the time I wasn’t seeing anyone, but the invite was for Miss NomdePlume and guest. I ended up asking a good guy friend of mine to go as my guest and we had a very nice time. Since planning my own wedding I truly wish I had not done that. Why? Well…
1. I did know most of the people at the wedding and while it was nice to have another friend there, he didn’t know anyone and so I felt as though I spent more time introducing him and making him comfortable than having fun with my friends whom I had not seen for quite some time.
2. The couple planned the wedding on an insanely strict budget. Knowing now how much stuff costs I feel guilty for having them pay for a meal for someone they never met before and whom they will never see again.
Post # 10
i’d tell her to invite someone before july and then reply.
Post # 11
I think she should probably go alone UNLESS all of her girlfriends that will be there are in relationships. It always sucks to be the odd one out, in which case I’d tell her find a date.
Post # 12
If she wants to find a date, I’d hold off on the reply. But if she’s fine going and hanging out will all her friends, reply back now as going solo.
Post # 13
I just wanted to add- if they couple offered her a +1, she’s not wrong or rude to accept it. She could bring her dogwalker if she wanted and she wouldn’t be rude. If the couple couldn’t afford it or didn’t want extra people there, then they wouldn’t have offered her the +1…