inviting a close friend's ex girlfriend to be IN my wedding…is that OK?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think that’s okay. She’s obviously close to you, and the breakup was years ago. They should be mostly over it by now, especially since they’re both married.

Post # 3
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Easton's Beach Rotunda Ballroom

Will he be a groomsmen? 

If yes, maybe don’t pair them together? 

I would say talk with your guy friend first to see if he would in fact be upset. Sometimes us girls tend to overanalyze and stress over things that really don’t bother men as much as we think it will. 

Two of our bridal party are exes but they remained good friends with each other post breakup so it’s not awkward at all. 

Post # 4
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really don’t think we are under any obligation to get permission from our friends to include other friends in our wedding party.

Their relationship ended 10 yeas ago. My expectation would be that they will behave civilly to one another.

Post # 5
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

jennyschupp:  I think it is okay. Had you said the breakup was recent, and even more so that they are not married to other people, then I would say no. But they have both obviously moved on. If they can not be around each for one day then there are serious problems.

Post # 6
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My friend just did this. She had our really close male friend’s ex-GF that she’d only become friends with in the last few months (after the breakup) as her MOH. It was weird the days leading up to the wedding because the breakup was recent and right after they broke up the guy started dating another one of our friends, who is major drama. Everyone was worried about a blowout. The groom initially asked the guy friend to not bring his new GF to avoid drama but the guy brought her anyway. There was no drama whatsoever. Everyone behaved very well! Yay!

So I think they will be ok with it!

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