Weddingbee boards

So one of my BM's is my little sister's best friend. I see her like another sister, I've known her for most of her life. So of course I love her family and wanted to invite them. They are a big family, 6 total, and a plus one for the BM. The problem is though, that one of those 6 is an ex. I dated him in highschool, we had a really bad breakup (he cheated) and haven't really talked much but there isn't any animosity. But FI and I agreed a LOOONG time ago that there would be no exes at the wedding. I didn't think this would be a problem at first because he wasn't living at home, so I would just address the invite to those people living at the house. BUT he just moved home (again, hes 28!!) and will be there when the invite arrives. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to offend his family by inviting everyone except him, but they were all there for our breakup, they know what went down. My sister thinks it won't be a big deal, but I think its important to address this before I send the invite so that it doesn't come as a shock to anyone. FI is dead set on no exes. What would you do in this situation?

I think you should invite the people you want.  If it does come up, I would just say that given the history between you two, you didn't feel that it was appropriate to invite him to your wedding.  You don't want to make your husband-to-be uncomfortable either, especially when you agreed no exes!  I'm sure most people will understand that.  

@JenniB: Well FI and I are HS sweethearts, so they do know each other, it's not like he'd go unnoticed. I am worried it will appear rude though.

@RingPup: My dad said the same thing, he was supposed to be living in FL so it wouldn't have been a big deal but my sister just let me know he just moved back home.

@dance: I'm hoping that's how it will go, but I'm a worrier and I just can't make myself mail the invite without knowing that it won't piss off the whole family since I love them so much.

I don't think it's rude to not invite your ex, at all!  Frankly, it would be rude to your future husband to include him.  Address the invite to the family members you'd like to include, and leave it at that.  If anyone asks, just explain you're not inviting exes.  Simple as that.  They will totally get it.  :)

My sister offered to talk to her mom about it, as she is more like their daughter than I am (she basically lives at their house). They all play WoW together and everything, and she said she's really open and would probably understand. But of course I'm going to worry like crazy until I know for sure. I don't think theyre the spiteful type but I just need to know because I hate hate drama. Thanks for making me feel better about it, I knew the Bee could go either way so its good to know what you girls think :)