(Closed) Inviting a family except for one person…tricky

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would address it to who you want there and plead ignorance if it was ever called to question.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you should invite the people you want.  If it does come up, I would just say that given the history between you two, you didn’t feel that it was appropriate to invite him to your wedding.  You don’t want to make your husband-to-be uncomfortable either, especially when you agreed no exes!  I’m sure most people will understand that.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Tough one.  I do understand the ex-factor (that was high school, right? hardly counts anyway), but frankly I do think it would be rude to invite all members of a family except one person.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d talk with your bridesmaid too, just so she is up on the situation. And then I’d send the invite to the family, minus the ex, and see how it plays out. I’d assume that he would understand the reason his name is not included, and if they bring it up then I’d just tell them that with the history between you two it’s best to not invite him. It’s a little awkward, but less awkward than leaving them all out just to avoid a few sticky conversations. 

ETA: If you’re close with them, you could always call the mom first before sending the invite, just for the heads up. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think it’s rude to not invite your ex, at all!  Frankly, it would be rude to your future husband to include him.  Address the invite to the family members you’d like to include, and leave it at that.  If anyone asks, just explain you’re not inviting exes.  Simple as that.  They will totally get it.  🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you are that close with the family I would talk to them about it. Given the situation I would think they’d easily understand.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s a tough situation ya got there! Mine is very similar, but much more complicated. My FI father decided to marry his ex’s mother. Yep, you heard it right!!! To me, its always going to be an awkward situation with my friends and family.   So to avoid the drama, we’re just getting married away and its the best darn decision we made Smile

Good luck on whatever you decide!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you should play it safe and just invite the BM + 1. No parents, no ex. Too complicated. I don’t think the parents would mind – they’ll get it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Even if you do invite the entire family and not him, is he the type of person that would just show up? If you are considering inviting the family excluding him, you should talk to the mother in person.To avoid stress and drama I would invite the BM and give her a +1

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