Inviting a group of ladies as singles that are close – versus dates

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Unfortunately we are only having dates for close family or people in a relationship. I wouldn’t consider someone who lives with her SO to be single. You may want to include hers. Some people only have guests for those who are married, engaged or living together.

Post # 4
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think you should only include dates for those married, engaged or living with someone.  

Post # 5
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not okay. Especially if that couple is living together, her significant other needs to be invited.


Post # 8
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@asb983:  yeah & have the rule appy to the whole list, not just one group.

Post # 9
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@asb983:  I’m struggling with a similar situation but with work friends – we spend a lot of time together at work and get along really well and i’d LOVE to have them at the wedding; three are in relationships and two are single. One is in a fairly new relationship and another has been dating a fairly short time but they live together and are quite young (I haven’t met any of the partners). 

I most likely won’t invite the partners – I think they’d feel more comfortable as a group anyway as they’re work friends and won’t really know anyone else – and the ones who are single won’t feel awkward. I also find it hard justifying spending well over $100+ per person on people I’ve never met! I think it really depends on the scenario though. If the couple was engaged or it was a REALLY close friend, or they didn’t know anyone else at the wedding, i’d invite the partner.

So to answer your question in a very long winded fashion… I think that seeing as you’re inviting them as a group, they’ll be fine without their partners!

Post # 11
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@asb983:  That’s what I’m doing! Everyone from my main group of friends are single or non-seriously dating. So rather than spending tons of money on people I don’t know… I’m just having them all sit together! None of them have a problem with that, since they won’t be awkwardly alone or something.

Post # 12
1237 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with 

@Miss_E_xx:   as long as the other friends are are coming solo, I think it is ok especially if they are as close as you say.

Post # 13
1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@asb983:  For the guests that are truly single, you do not need to give them a plus one. For those in a relationship – yes, you should invite their date. It does not matter if they are living together or engaged, clearly this is a serious relationship. She can decide whether or not to bring him, and the single ladies can’t get mad as they don’t have a boyfriend to bring. 

Post # 14
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@asb983:  Are you inviting other people with plus 1’s? If you are then I think you need to extend the same courtsey to everyone.

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