Inviting an ex to the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@smilesjb:  I wouldn’t invite her. She’s his family’s friend – not his or yours. Bottom line – you don’t want her there, your FI doesn’t care, so there’s no need to invite her.

If the two of you are making up the guest list, simply don’t add her. If you are allowing his family to give you a guest list, then your FI needs to have a quiet word with his parents that she’s not going to be extended an invitation so not to add her and that this decision is firm and not open to debate.

Post # 4
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1354 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If you guys aren’t close with her then I wouldn’t bother.

My ex is coming to our wedding, FI and I are good friends with him and have a lot of mutual friends, it would have been weird if we didn’t invite him, really, so I’m not saying it because she is his ex, I just think that if you aren’t close with her then why bother inviting her? 

If you are though, disregard that and invite her.

Post # 5
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7634 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@smilesjb:  If it’s mainly his family who’s stayed in contact, you’ve got a legitimate reason not to invite her. My parents only got a very small number of invites (aside from relatives), and I suspect most weddings are similar.

I wouldn’t invite her because I wouldn’t want to see FMIL fawning over her at the reception. Just inappropriate.

The people you see less than her shouldn’t be a problem. I suspect no one except FI and you will know that you see them less.

Post # 6
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970 posts
Busy bee

im confused. What’s ohtb stand for? 

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