Post # 1
My two bosses ask occasionally how my wedding plans are going. I wasn’t planning on inviting them, but now I am not sure. I’m not super close to one but he seems to like to give me wedding advice (he’s married), and the other guy is single. My fiance and I have been invited over my single boss’ house before and he constantly asks how my finance is (I think he might have a crush on him, but that’s another story…)
Should I give them an invitation, odds are the married one might not come, but the other one, he just might. I live in CA but my wedding is in NY.
Post # 3
Not if you don’t want to.
Fiance and I work at the same office, and we are not inviting anyone from work.
Post # 4
@emireeeeeeeeee: I’m inviting my boss, so is Fiance. It’s more of a courtesy, I doubt they’ll come. But I agree with the above poster, only invite them if you want to and if you have the room.
Post # 5
If you hang out with them at break time, go to lunch with them, or even see them outside of work, then I’d invite them. At least, that was my rule of thumb for coworkers anyways.
Post # 6
I feel like it’s customary to invite bosses, but they rarely come–especially if it’s way across the US! Usually they’ll just send a bomb gift and RSVP no.
It’s a different story if you hate your boss(es) or have no relationship with them. Also, if you invite one, you must invite both.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I feel like we are in the same situation; I have two bosses currently, one of them came on board after I actually got engaged, so I was originally planning to only invite my original boss, but now I know I want to extend the invitation to my new boss. When do you plan on sending out invitations? I see you’re not getting married until September (not until August for me!), I would recommend just not really saying anything indicating that you are or aren’t inviting them, don’t send save the dates to them if you are doing those, and decide when it’s actually time to send invitations. A lot can happen between now and 4 months before the wedding (one or both of them could even leave your company!), so just wait and see how the relationship is at that time. That is basically how I’m approaching it now, because I’m not sure how many of my other coworkers, if any, I also want to invite.