(Closed) Inviting Bosses/Co-Workers?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think if you invite your bosses you must invite their husband/wife.  I think its everyone or nobody.  Plus they might just assume their husband/wife is invited too which not good for business.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@FutureJessicaMcB: I’m struggling with this myself…I have invited 3 of 10 teammates who I have social relationships with, and I’m waiting for the guest count to come in to decide if there’s room for the rest.

In your situation, I agree with @mkewed2010: in that it’s all with +1s or none. Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve been going thru this as well.  I work very closely with my boss, which I will be inviting.  I also have 3 other girlfriends from work, I will be asking.  I didn’t send them save the dates because you never know what’s going to happen in this economy. 

Since you are so new, I would even mention that you aren’t going to invite anyone from work.  That might be the easy way out of it.  It’s so hard I know, but then you don’t want people to get offended.

 

 

Post # 6
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re inviting both of our departments (bosses included) as well as their SO’s which add roughly a dozen people to our guest list. I personally feel that if you invite some co-workers, you really need to invite them all especially when you’re talking about your bosses. I wouldn’t want to burn any bridges with the people who sign your paychecks. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others, you definitely have to do +1s for everyone and if you invite one boss, you should invite them all.  In other careers, I don’t think this is necessarily the case (and it’s not what I’m doing) BUT in a legal background, I think that’s your safest bet.  Also, more than likely, they won’t all attend (for whatever that’s worth).

Post # 8
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, and definitely invite them with guests!  Also, what is the etiquette for shower invites?  I don’t want to go overboard with invites for my coworkers, since I’m sure in the office they’ll be planning something.

Is it horrible if I don’t invite them to the shower?  They are all women…Let me know.  I’m on the fence, I just don’t want people to feel obligated!

Post # 9
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

For bosses, I think it is pretty much all or nothing.  For my husband this meant 4 bosses (plus spouses)  Only two were able to make it though.  And if you are worried about them all attending, you can forgo the Save the Date with them and invite them closer to the wedding.  Be sure to think about the reception, embarrassing toasts from the family, etc, and if you feel comfortable having your bosses there.

As for coworkers, I love all my coworkers and was sad I couldn’t invite all of them.  I went only with people I had spent time with outside of work. But even that decision made me sad as some of my favorite people in the office are newer.  But I couldn’t see how to invite them without inviting some of the people who had been there longer.  

Post # 10
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736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with everyone else, it’s all of them and their spouses or none of them.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@FutureJessicaMcB: We’ve invited Kingy’s boss but thats it, he only has one boss so its not as big of a deal- I think it would be a really nice gesture to invite them but its all or none- you don’t want to create any enemies out of this, so can you afford to invite 10 more people? If the answer is yes, do it, if not- skip them all and if anyone says anything, say its a very intimate wedding.

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