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If you are close to their parents or other family members, invite them.

I have three BMs who are not family.

I am inviting R's mom and brother but not her father, who've I've met only a handful of times, or her ex-step father, who I knew growing up with R. I'm not inviting the ex-step father because R's mother is closer to me than he is and she has a new, serious relationship. R's brother is invited because he was like an annoying little brother to me.

BM C's mother, her mother's fiance and C's grandparents are invited because I'm close with all of them. C's father is not invited, even though he lives down the street from my mother, because I never knew him well growing up.

But neither of E's parents or families, except her husband, of course, are getting an invite.

It all just depends on who has had an affect on your life and who you are close with now.

 Good Luck!

Oh, ok. Well if you are inviting the dad, etiquette says you have to invite the fiance, too, as they are a serious couple. It's like my BM R's mother and her fiance. I don't know her fiance well, but he's getting an invite because R's mother is and I'm close to R's mother.

I have 8 bridesmaids.  3 are family and the others I invited all their parents but 1.  It was hard but I was in her wedding last year and she didn't invite my parents and I knew they would be watching her 1 year old son so I think under certain circumstances its fine to forego inviting all the bridesmaids parents.

Don't worry about inviting the dad (I am inviting 4 out 5 parent sets from my BMs myself-and I do know the 5th's, but just not close enough).  Try to think of it from her dad/fiance's perspective- they know you as well as you know them, would them even want to come?  If your BM is hurt by this you can always just explain the cost reason & your closeness to the other families.  Don't over think it, in hindsight no one will think twice about it more than likely :O)