Post # 1
My bridesmaid has had a horrible on and off again boyfriend since I’ve known her (for about 3 years). He is never nice to any of us and our other friends. We have all made it very clear to her that we do not like him and the way he treats her. There is always drama when they are together. I told her I do not want him at my wedding. Is this unreasonable? Am I being a bridezilla? I want her to have fun, but I also want my day to be drama-free. My future husband hates him as well. She is very upset that I told her I didn’t want him there and I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
Ugh, why do people bring these things up so far in advance. They may be “off again” by the time your wedding rolls around, so why bring it up now?
I suppose the cat’s already out of the bag, I would just monitor the situation and see if you can stomach him next year.
Post # 4
@SapphireSun: The reason it came up so early is because he crashed our girl’s only engagement party. 🙁 I explained to her why we were upset he was there, and then it led to this discussion…
Post # 5
i think you’re right. you don’t want him there because he brings drama but if they are together then there is nothing you can do about that and if you told her she could bring a guest then she should be able to bring who she wants. the best thing for you to do is flip it around put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if you were told you couldn’t bring your boyfriend to your friends wedding because no one likes him.
if you’re getting married in 2011 she may not even be with him at that point. you should just see how things play out and worry about it when it get closer to your big day.