(Closed) Inviting Children to Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think if you invite some, you have to invite all!  Otherwise the other parents will scream about it being unfair.

Post # 4
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Honestly, I think it is entirely up to you.  Unfortunately it’s impossible to make everyone happy.  My fiance has 6 brothers and sisters with 14 nieces and nephews under 14 and I have 1 nephew who is 2 from out of town.  We decided to allow these children to come because it’s important to have our immediate family with us (and several are in the wedding party).  We also invited out of town guests with children (it can be difficult to find child care out of town and not everyone will be comfortable with allowing you to choose childcare for them).  In town guests with children will not have their children invited (and really they likely won’t know other children are invited until the day of). 

Our choice was also due to the fact that we would wind up an additional 20 kids (we already have 15) which would put us way over our 110 guest limit.  Hopefully a lot of the parents will be excited about a night out without the kids!  And I would really hope they would be able respect your decision on the happiest day of your life!!


Post # 5
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The general rule is that if you invite some, you should invite all. That being said, with only 9 extra invitees with kids, and a few of those 9 not attending, what are the odds that many will actually show up? Some couples prefer to leave the kids at home, after all. 

Post # 6
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Children should be invited in ‘circles’.  We are doing children of family only, plus our neighbors’ twin daughters, who will be 12 or 13.  There won’t be a whole lot of kids there (I know one cousin is very excited to leave the kids home) but we aren’t, for example, inviting children of our friends.

Post # 8
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@futuremrsfitz18:  Agreed- if you limit children, it’s best to just include family, and/or bridal party (flower girls, etc.)

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