(Closed) Inviting Children You Don’t Know

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think if you are going to have some of their family,and some of their kids there then you needto invite them all. You cant invite half of their family. Either that or dont invite any of the kids. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you should invite them.  Think of it as if you were one of those children and you watched your mom and step-dad and 2 of your step siblings going off to an event that you were invited to.  I’d be crushed and those kids don’t deserve that even if they aren’t related to you!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you invite any of your uncle’s kids, you have to invite them all.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Of course you have to invite them. It would be cruel to invite only the two children.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Like PP have said, you have to invite all the kids. You say your uncle is very close to you. I’m sure he would be offended if you only invite 2 out of 5 of “his” kids.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

All the kids or none of them. If other guests are allowed to have their kids, though, they may feel slighted. Unless you have some age cutoff like only kids over 13, and all their kids are under 13. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

…sorry… :-(. i only hit submit once i swear!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Cinderella being left at home while the stepsisters went to the ball?  I am sure your uncle is working hard to not show favoritism to any of the children so why create drama with your wedding?  All or nothing.

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Do they all live together 50% of the time or more?

If yes, then they all get an invite.

If no, you can get away without an invite.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What are the ages of all the children?  I think you have to invite all or none … and if the step-kids aren’t around much, they probably won’t attend.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think it’s wrong of you, but you can’t exclude someone’s children but then allow some other person’s 5 kids. You certainly can’t allow JUST the child that is both biologically theirs and exclude the 3 previous. It’s just not right.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My vote is in for the “none or all.” But I think it depends on how old they are though: if they’re older the ones that know you might go and the other ones will just stay behind.

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