Post # 1
I have had so many questions about invitations lately, and I just thought about another one.
I’ve been working at my job for 8 years. It’s been my only job, and I started there in high school. After I get married I’m moving away because my FH took a job in another city.
Our wedding is about 10 hours from where I live. I want to invite all my co-workers to the wedding just because I don’t want to be rude. I really don’t think anyone will go except one person. He loves churches and I know he really wants to see where we are getting married.
My question is: Do I give everyone individual invites or do I just post a couple around the building, since I know that pretty much no one will go?
I had a co-worker get married once, and people were offended they weren’t each given an individual invite and but her wedding was only about 3 hours away.
*I have about 30 co-workers, and I DIYd my invitations, so cost isn’t an issue, if that matters.
Post # 3
I should have posted this in etiquette. oops!
Post # 4
Honestly, I’d just post a few up around. If you don’t think any of them will actually come I wouldn’t bother with individual invites. I’m lazy like that 😛
Post # 5
@Gingersnap: That’s kind of what I was thinking. Most of them are college kids, and they can’t afford to travel to my wedding. Plus we’re not “best friends” or anything. I mean, they’re co-workers. I like them. They like me. But we’re not super, super close or anything.
Post # 6
I would do individual ones, it is a nicer gesture even if they aren’t going to come.
I feel like posting a few up screams kegger, not wedding.
Post # 7
I think when co-workers just post invites up on a bulletin board or whatnot, it’s kinda strange. Like, this one time someone posted about a baby shower. Now, had i actually gotten an invitation handed to me, i probably would have went. But when they are posted in general i start thinking “well, i don’t know her that well, is it going to be awkward if i go..” “i wasn’t personally invited, but am i expected to go?” or “does she really want me to go? or is she just being polite?”
Plus, for a wedding, how would you work the RSVP?
Post # 8
I think you should put a couple invites posted in a few places like you mentioned, and then give one to the friend you have that you know will come and that you want there.
Post # 9
Posting them around the building seems really weird to me. What if complete randoms come? And how will people RSVP? Give them individual ones but hand them out, don’t post. That being said, be prepared for some of them to RSVP Yes.
Post # 10
What if you scanned one of your invitations and emailed it to everyone with a note saying you hope they can all come, or whatever? That way everyone gets a direct invitation, but it doesn’t make extra work for you. It would also solve the RSVP problem, because people would be able to email you back and say whether they’re coming?
Post # 11
I gave mine individual invitations because I wanted RSVPs. I just wouldn’t feel comfortable with posting invites around the office.
Post # 12
I would do individual ones.. that way when they rsvp you have something visual that is like everyone elses.. thats just me tho..
Post # 13
If you’re not close to all of them, I wouldn’t invite all of them. I would find it strange if I received a wedding invitation at work from someone I didn’t consider close to. I also would not post the invitation – as someone else said, that comes off as “party/kegger” moreso than “wedding.”
I plan to send an invitation in the mail to those coworkers that I’m close to (I’ve been at the same company for 10 years and am very close to some, not all). For me, it will be about half of the office but the people I’m inviting will get their own invitation.
I posted a question on here awhile ago and was told to think of it this way – invite those that you normally would go out to dinner with/spend time with. You are not obligated to invite coworkers, solely because they’re your coworkers.
Post # 14
I would only invite people close to me individually its a wedding not a birthday party; what if all 30 came, if they like you they may come; plus they have significant others thats 60 extra; I agree if you see each other socially then they’re close enough to invite