Post # 1
Hi everyone. I am wondering whether I should consider putting my co-workers on my wedding list. I work on a 12 person team (w. 2 supervisors), I have been working with the same group for the past 3 years. Naturally I have been talking excitedly about my engagement and wedding at work, however, my fiance and I are on a rather tight budget. Do I have to take an all or nothing approach to inviting them? Is it appropriate to only invite the supervisors and the 2-3 other teammembers that I would like to have – I get along with everyone but I would only consider 2-3 of them ‘friends’? We socialize outside of work as a team from time to time, but…then there are the family members you have to invite. I’d rather have Jessica, who sits two desks down from me that I see every day come to the wedding rather than distant cousin Jane whom I see 1-2 times a year. How do I handle this?
Post # 3
I was also in the same type of situation. I work in a small program within a large school and I’m only close enough with a few to actually invite them, but people did tell me I needed to take an all or nothing approach, especially since the supervisor wouldn’t have been on my selective list. In the end, the teacher that I teach with and work out of the same classroom 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, was the only one I invited. Many said there was no way I couldn’t not invite her (I wanted to also) and that I should keep it to just her to avoid breaking the budget and etiquette.
Post # 4
I have a similar working environment (office is about 15 people.)
I’m only inviting one person from my office to my wedding, but she and I have been friends for a decade… roomed together in college, etc. We are friends outside of work.
Another coworker of mine got engaged the week before me. She is inviting pretty much everyone from the office to her wedding… I will say 10 out of the 15 people. None of these people are friends with her outside of work.
If you are on a tight budget I would say invite only the people who you would consider a closer friend.
Post # 5
I work with about 8 people. There are 2 I am close with outside of work but I felt bad just inviting them and not the 6 others, as they would obviously find out about it. So I didn’t invite any co-workers.
Post # 6
I think I’m also going to run into this trouble. There are about 25-30 women I work with, there’s about 6 I consider as friends & want to invite. However there’s also another handful that I am fairly friendly with & I think might be offended if they know some people were invited & they weren’t.
The all or nothing thing isn’t really going to work for us – my partner & I both work in the same large organisation (in different depts) but we met & got together through socialising with workmates – they are part of our story. And aside from budgetary reasons, there are some women I work with that drive me nuts – inviting everyone is just NOT happening!!