Post # 1
Hey all 🙂 What is your take on working some, but not all colleagues? I am close with quite a few of my coworkers (worked together for 5+ years). While I am cordial and work-friendly with everyone, I don’t really “want” to invite everyone. Also, my fiance and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves and really need to be cautious with over inviting.
I’m so stuck on this. Please help!
Post # 3
I’m also wondering this. Replying so that I’m subscribed!
Post # 4
FI and I are paying for our wedding, but we are having a small intimate wedding. We are on a tight budget. Decided to invite just the people in our lives, not a part of our lives. We excluded co-workes and aquaintances. That’s totally up to you. Sometimes inviting co-workers is like inviting certain family members…if you invite so and so…then you HAVE to invite this person and that person because you don’t want to piss them off. Remember, you have to work with them and see them every day. I let people I work with know that it’s just an “immediate family” kinda wedding, so they aren’t expecting invites.
Post # 5
Invite who you’re close with and who you WANT to share your day with, it’s a simple as that. If you feel the need to then you could explain nicely to your other co-workers that it’s a budget thing and no hard feelings. I don’t really understand this etiquette that everyone needs to be invited to weddings or no-one gets a invite.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think you’re fine to just invite your good friends at work, and not everyone. People understand that weddings are expensive and not *everyone* can come. If you’re worried about offending people, ask your friends that you do invite to keep it on the DL. And obviously, DON”T talk about your wedding at work!
Post # 7
@PenguinLove: I don’t really understand this etiquette that everyone needs to be invited to weddings or no-one gets a invite
i think in this situation its less of an etiquette thing, and more of a human nature thing. I think in terms of etiquette, it’s perfectly fine to only invite your closest co-workers and not all coworkers
BUT the reality is, it can lead to hurt feelings and strained relationships. As much as we all like to say ‘we’re all adults, people should understand that they can’t all be invited’ its all too frequent that people in fact *don’t* understand. This is why people say to be careful/
OP – invite the ones you’re closest to, but do not discuss the wedding at all with people who aren’t invited. And divert the topic of conversation if its brought up
Post # 8
@lolot: I think you’re fine to just invite your good friends at work, and not everyone. +1
Post # 9
I think a lot of people invite coworkers that they are also somewhat friendly with outside of work. I invited one coworker, the teacher whose classroom I worked in 5 days a week, 8 hours a day. At that point she was much more than a coworker.
Post # 10
@atroianos: Ugh, I’m stuck in a similar situation. There are people here that I have worked with for 5 years that I don’t want to invite and people who are much newer who I would like to.
I think you just have to invite who you really want to be there.
Post # 11
We invited the coworkers we’re close to. We mentioned to each of them privately that we couldn’t invite everyone, and asked them to keep it to themselves, if possible. No one has spread around that they got an invitation.
Post # 12
we’re inviting the coworkers that we see socially outside of work. these are friends, not just people we work with
Post # 13
@newname_99: I can see where you’re coming from but personally it seems wedding comes with enough drama as it is, I’m going to have be strict when it comes to planning my GL.