(Closed) Inviting Co-Workers Debate

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m on your FI’s side. ETA, no helpful advice, I just think he’s right that they wont go and it will be a good way to start with his new coworkers.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i say invite co-workers only if you hang out with them outside of the office too (at more than just afterwork happy hours).  fi can tell them you’re having a small wedding, and i’m sure they’ll understand.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m on your side, but I see his point. He hasn’t been there for that long, so I would just invite his bosses and a few close co-workers. Weddings are expensive and a lot of times, you can’t afford to invite everyone. Plus, it is a lot easier for a guy to not invite his co-workers than the bride. Hardly anyone at my FI’s office asks him about wedding plans b/c most of them are men. But everybody at my job asks me about the plans!

My sister invited her whole office (13 plus their guests) to her wedding. 6 months later she quit her job after she found out that a few of the women were really catty and talked behind everyone’s back! She regrets inviting them to this day.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We only invited one co-worker and it just happened to be FI’s. They hadn’t known eachother for that long either about 3 months, but have really clicked and we now go out to dinner with the couple all the time. So I normally would say no, but we did in this situation.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Considering it is in another state, they will probably not come so why not invite them anyway? That way you atleast extended an invitation so there shouldn’t be any hard feelings.

We’re inviting both of our departments but that’s only because we work for the same company. I know his entire department and he knows mine. All of our co-workers know each other also, so they’ll have their own table all to themselves. Thankfully, including our co-workers isn’t totally breaking the bank since they only add 12 more people to our guest list (including their spouses) and seeing as how our wedding is on a Friday evening, I don’t know that they will all make it.  

As far as workplace etiquette is concerned, I normally think it’s nice to extend an invitation to your boss as a sign of good faith but unless you are particularly close to your co-workers, it’s not necessary to invite them. However, you shouldn’t discuss your wedding at work if said co-workers will not be included.

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