Post # 1
I have worked for the same company(over 600 employees) for the past 14 years. Within my department there is a total of 11 of us ~ some new to the department and some I have worked with and known for the past 14 years. I have worked for the same boss for the past 10 years. Over time I become good friends with about 5 of these people. Everyone at my work asks about my wedding and I am happy to share my stories with them and share my excitement. I think some of them expect to be invited. I did not originally invite any of my co-workers, except of my boss. So………………..here is my problem, I currently have 246 people on my guest list. I know for sure about 30 of them will not come because of traveling and other reasons. Knowing that already …do I invite everyone or just those that I am close with? It will be awkward to go work and someone talk about my wedding and said, “I didn’t get invited!”, it would just be rude and poor etiquette . I am really not sure how to handle this. I don’t want them to feel like they are on the “B-list”. I would like everyone to come but I have to invite my family and friends first. Yikes!!
Any suggestions?!? I would love to hear them.
Post # 3
My husband invited only the coworkers he was close with, and since I was still new at my job, I didn’t invite anyone. We were having a small wedding (only 69 total including us came), so people were really understanding. His coworkers did a good job of keeping it on the down low, and not making a big thing of it.
Post # 4
I think most people will understand with Budget restraints that you can only invite a few people.
I’m only inviting two coworkers.
Post # 5
Im only inviting my boss who is a really close friend now…. everyone else is a no… I cant stand any of them!
Post # 6
Both my FH and I only invited those we were close with. Thankfully we have the excuse that our venue limits the amount of people we can invite. Our room only holds 150 people. The people at my job I did invite are being pretty good about keeping it on the down low. Also, when I have been talking about wedding plans with co-workers I’ve mentioned several times about our venue size.
Post # 7
The custom here is to have family and a few friends to the reception and then open the dance up to everyone. I’m giving my staff (I’m a teacher) an invitation to the dance. 🙂 The only exception is the teacher who we have hung around with outside of work, and her husband is on the fire dept with FI.
Post # 8
i am in a similar situation. I decided to invite people i am closer to at work. I think everyone else will understand, and if not, that is their problem. this is YOUR day, dont worry about people getting offended!
Post # 9
I am similar in that I also have a small department. I’d look at ratios. If you are close with most of them and just a few are new, then I would invite everyone. I wouldnt want anyone to feel left out if everyone, but one or two people were invited.
However, if you are only close with your boss and one or two of your co-workers, then just invite those people. In this scenario, its easier to see that you are inviting those who you are close with – and not excluding one or two persons.
If they don’t know you well, I bet they wouldnt come anyway. But if you have the room, its a nice thing to do. My answer would be different if you had a department of say 100.
I’m having 2 receptions. One is at the destination wedding and the other is later in our home city. At the one in our home city, I’m just inviting everyone from my dept. I don’t want anyone to feel left out. I am not particularly close with any of them outside of work. However, I spend more time with these people than my family. That being said, I wouldnt invite anyone I dislike.
Post # 10
If I had unlimited funds and space, I would invite everyone, but that’s not the case. I invited my boss and the other three women on our team, one person who was one of my first contacts at work when I volunteered for the org (before being hired) and one person who I consider a pretty good work-friend. There are at least four other women who I know somewhat well and I like, but we’re not super close, so sadly, I just can’t afford to invite them.
Overall, I’m kind of tight-lipped about the wedding while at work. A couple of regulat people will ask how things are going along, but other than those discussions, I usually don’t bring up the subject.
Post # 11
My FH is thinking to invite a few co-workers whom he is really closed to but I won’t invite anyone from work. I want to keep my wedding as close family/friend type of thing, not a big production (don’t mean to offend brides who wants a big wedding).