Inviting co-workers… plus one or no?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we invite a plus one for co-workers?
    Yes, plus one for all co-workers. : (7 votes)
    32 %
    Plus one only for married co-workers. : (13 votes)
    59 %
    No plus ones because they all know each other well. : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 2
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

    I invited the co workers i am close to, and they all had a plus one. 5 people from work.

    Post # 3
    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would invite spouses, fiances and live-in or long term relationships.  No general plus ones, unless there is only one co-worker by himself/herself 

    Post # 5
    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I did bc they all had spouses. 

    Post # 6
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Same rule as for your other guests. It’s never fun going out socialising and leaving your spouse at home, whether it’s a work colleague’s wedding, a friend’s wedding, or a cousin’s wedding.

    I think it’s better to ask yourself, “will they still be friends when I stop working there” or “do I socialise with them after hours, as friends”. Based on that, I only invited one person from work.

    Post # 7
    74 posts
    Worker bee

    rel318:  Do you HAVE to invite any of them? Picking and choosing a few over the others would be much worse than  just saying that you are having a family/close friends affair. Since you get together for lunch so often perhaps you could treat them and share your photos after?

    Post # 8
    120 posts
    Blushing bee

    If you invite co-workers, I would not feel the need to invite their partners. I don’t know them, have not seen or even met them, this is the only logical excuse that will keep the numbers from going overboad. I invited those who I am close to and would want to be at the wedding. I would not invite all co-workers for the sake of it. Its your wedding, you choose who you want to invite, its a private event, not a corporate function.

    Post # 9
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    My manager invited the other girls who work in the shop to her wedding. Several of us were engaged, cohabitating, or married at the time; none of us brought a +1. We knew that it was already generous of her to invite us, and we’d have each other to hang out with.  Invitations were vague; addressed only to the person she handed them to (first name only since they didn’t go through the mail), but the RSVP card had a write-in guest option. If your coworkers are understanding, I don’t think they would hold it against you if you didn’t extend a +1. 

    Post # 10
    1242 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    rel318:  I am personally against inviting co-workers in general. I think work is work and social is social. BUT if you want to invite them/feel the need, they all know each other and you do not need to add an additional 30-40 people to your guest list. It’s very generous of you to invite them, they do not need a plus 1.

    Post # 11
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I invited the coworkers I socialize with outside of work and extended a plus one to married/long term. 

    Post # 12
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We are invting 2 people from a place we both worked at different times, and as they are both married, spouses are invited.

    Post # 13
    1644 posts
    Bumble bee

    You will be wisest to keep your social life and your work life separate. Only friends and family should be invited to your wedding. Of course, it is possible to have friends who work at the same business, and that can blur the line, making it hard to distinguish between colleagues and friends.

    A person is a friend if you socialize with them on non-work-related occasions. Office lunches, however, are work-related events. Neither are company Christmas parties. One distinction between collegial and social relationships, is that social relationships recognize the other important non-work relationships in your lives: the most important of which is marriage. If you do not know someone’s spouse or fiance, then that’s a good sign that the other person is not truly a social friend. If you do know their spouse or fiance, then invite them as a couple as you would any other friend (and of course, by “spouse” I include anyone with whom they are living together intimately).

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