Post # 1
I work in a pretty small office…we total about 15-18 people. Since we are small everyone knows each other pretty well and we go out for lunch as a whole group often enough. When inviting co-workers, is it ok to not invite a plus one since they all know each other and can sit together? Should we do a plus one for only those who are married/in a serious, long-term relationship?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I invited the co workers i am close to, and they all had a plus one. 5 people from work.
Post # 3
I would invite spouses, fiances and live-in or long term relationships. No general plus ones, unless there is only one co-worker by himself/herself
Post # 4
Yeah I think we are going to not invite all of them, even though it will be awkward because I know everyone will be talking about it at work :\ If we invited them all and a plus one that would be a lot of people…
Post # 5
I did bc they all had spouses.
Post # 6
Same rule as for your other guests. It’s never fun going out socialising and leaving your spouse at home, whether it’s a work colleague’s wedding, a friend’s wedding, or a cousin’s wedding.
I think it’s better to ask yourself, “will they still be friends when I stop working there” or “do I socialise with them after hours, as friends”. Based on that, I only invited one person from work.
Post # 7
rel318: Do you HAVE to invite any of them? Picking and choosing a few over the others would be much worse than just saying that you are having a family/close friends affair. Since you get together for lunch so often perhaps you could treat them and share your photos after?
Post # 8
If you invite co-workers, I would not feel the need to invite their partners. I don’t know them, have not seen or even met them, this is the only logical excuse that will keep the numbers from going overboad. I invited those who I am close to and would want to be at the wedding. I would not invite all co-workers for the sake of it. Its your wedding, you choose who you want to invite, its a private event, not a corporate function.
Post # 9
My manager invited the other girls who work in the shop to her wedding. Several of us were engaged, cohabitating, or married at the time; none of us brought a +1. We knew that it was already generous of her to invite us, and we’d have each other to hang out with. Invitations were vague; addressed only to the person she handed them to (first name only since they didn’t go through the mail), but the RSVP card had a write-in guest option. If your coworkers are understanding, I don’t think they would hold it against you if you didn’t extend a +1.
Post # 10
rel318: I am personally against inviting co-workers in general. I think work is work and social is social. BUT if you want to invite them/feel the need, they all know each other and you do not need to add an additional 30-40 people to your guest list. It’s very generous of you to invite them, they do not need a plus 1.
Post # 11
I invited the coworkers I socialize with outside of work and extended a plus one to married/long term.
Post # 12
We are invting 2 people from a place we both worked at different times, and as they are both married, spouses are invited.
Post # 13
You will be wisest to keep your social life and your work life separate. Only friends and family should be invited to your wedding. Of course, it is possible to have friends who work at the same business, and that can blur the line, making it hard to distinguish between colleagues and friends.
A person is a friend if you socialize with them on non-work-related occasions. Office lunches, however, are work-related events. Neither are company Christmas parties. One distinction between collegial and social relationships, is that social relationships recognize the other important non-work relationships in your lives: the most important of which is marriage. If you do not know someone’s spouse or fiance, then that’s a good sign that the other person is not truly a social friend. If you do know their spouse or fiance, then invite them as a couple as you would any other friend (and of course, by “spouse” I include anyone with whom they are living together intimately).