(Closed) Inviting coworkers?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Invite coworkers?
    Only if they are friends outside of work. : (25 votes)
    61 %
    Yes! Invite them. You see them every day, and they hear you talking about the wedding all the time. : (5 votes)
    12 %
    No way! I like my personal and professional lives separate. : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Other...see below. : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I can say that I’ve messed up in this category, I’ve posted it about it recently.  And as a result, I have come to the belief that unless you’re friends outside of work, you don’t need them at your wedding.  Think about the money you’ll be saving too. 

    Post # 4
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    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I work in a very small office, six people including me.  I decided it was worth it to just invite them all, because while I don’t really hang out with any of them outside of work, I knew that it might offend them if I didn’t extend an invitation because they have heard me talk about it for the last year.  They all seemed to be genuinely happy to receive the invite, and they all accepted, so I don’t feel bad at all about my decision.

    Post # 5
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    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I work in a professional field and am inviting a few ex-coworkers (I’m currently in school so I don’t really have a full time job).  Hopefully this doesn’t sound completely terrible, but part of the reason I am inviting them is for networking purposes.  I keep in touch with them semi-regularly, and the industry I work is in relatively small (people know each other).  I figure it can’t hurt to invite them (and of course I’m friendly with all of them).

    Post # 6
    Member
    1049 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    I *really* want to invite my coworkers. I love them and we spend so much time together in and outside of work. Unfortunately, with just our families and close friends, the guest list almost tops 200 and there’s no room to add another 10 work friends – especially when I had to tell my mom she couldn’t invite some of her work friends she’s known for 30+ years. That’s the price you pay for being incredibly popular I guess*.

     

    *kidding. Mostly.

    Post # 7
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    2703 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i am inviting the two girls that i eat lunch with everyday (from my current job… i’ve been here only 8 months).

    from my last job that i was at nearly 3 years… i made a lot of good friends. they were my age and we all went out together A LOT.

    i consider them more friends than just ex-coworkers. and so i am inviting at least ten or so of them.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t hang out with mine outside of work. Ever.

    I did invite my bosses, though. Mostly like for what EvaBostonTerrier said…it just felt “right” to invite my bosses. Brownie points? Yeah sure maybe.

    My office is just…too professional for friendships I guess =. it’s no fun that way, but it is what it is

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I only invited coworkers that I spent time with outside of work.  I didn’t talk about the wedding all the time with my coworkers so it’s not like they heard about it all the time and then didn’t get invited.

    Post # 10
    Member
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I will be inviting my coworkers.  If I worked at a large office I probably wouldn’t but if I invite my coworkers and they all bring dates there will be 16.  In my situation it’s all or none.  Even though we don’t hang out outside of work our annual Christmas Party is a great time and everyone gets together and talkes and dances (spouses and all).  My one coworker got married a couple years ago and she invited us all so i’m gonna do the same.  We have a real “family” feel.

    Post # 11
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    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I had a DW of sorts, and so the only coworker I invited was my MOH.  But I still don’t think I would have invited people had the wedding been in town.  We don’t hang out outside of work, so I don’t see the point.  Honestly, if you don’t know my middle name, I don’t want you at my wedding!

    Post # 12
    Member
    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Im inviting only my closest friend at work.

    Post # 13
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I felt a lot of pressure to invite coworkers who also invited me to THEIR weddings…even though I’m not super close to them 🙁

    Post # 14
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    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    no. i do like my coworkers and i have hung out with them outside of work, but just once and i tend to keep my personal life and professional life seperate. though, that is difficult in a salon because we tend to socialize a bit differently.

    but, i decided that it’s not in the budget and i’m moving across the country directly after the wedding and i know that i won’t be keeping in touch with anyone i work with now. and if something happens and we decide to stay here, i’ll be quitting that job anyway.

    Post # 15
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    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Like rachel_leigh, I am inviting everyone from my work because it’s only a staff of 9 (including me) and I genuinely like all of them. I think some will come and some will skip it. Works for me!

    Post # 16
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    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’ve been working with the same 12 people for over three years now, and I invited all of them.  They’re like my adopted family, I couldn’t picture not inviting them!

    However, if I didn’t know everyone as well as I do, and if I didn’t particularly care for them, I definitely wouldn’t have invited them.

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