Post # 1
I’ve worked for the same small company for over 5 years now, and I’ve obviously come to know my coworkers pretty well. When I got engaged, my boss made a comment to me that made it pretty clear he expects to be invited. I have two bosses who own the company equally, so that would mean inviting both of them. I have no problem with this at all. I had never really thought about it, but they’ve been a big part of my life, so it would be nice if they were there. There’s also another girl I work with that has become a good friend. She’s invited too.
The issue now, is do I have to invite all my coworkers? There are only 5 other people, so it almost seems like I should if I’m already inviting almost half the office. I like everyone but one person, who I genuinely cannot stand. I would be happy with everyone at my wedding except for him, but obviously if I’m going to invite everyone else, it would be pretty terrible not to invite him too.
So what do I do? Do I only invite my bosses and the one other person, or do I suck it up, invite everyone and just hope he doesn’t come?
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2015 - The Biltmore Ballrooms
If you do not like someone, do not invite them. Unless they have no idea you dislike them. But it it’s a mutual dislike, you shouldnt. If you have room, definitely invite your coworkers. I personally have no room, so I dont even talk about my wedding at work… only one of my coworkers is invited because I knew her before we worked together. And I even asked her not to bring it up at work.
Post # 3
I think two bosses plus one good friend is fine. It’d be obvious to the other co-workers that they’re not being excluded, that it’s just that the two bosses and your good friend are special cases. But any more than that, and I think you’ve pretty well got to invite everyone.
I once worked in a small office (I think 6 people at the time) and one person married and only invited the boss. I was fine with it.
I’ll add, your boss was very rude fishing for an invitation, and (by wedding etiquette) it is fine to not invite him if you’re not close. But I also realise that it might be a bad career move not to. You might be able to get away with, “small wedding, could only invite a small number of friends”.
Post # 4
well this could depend you your wedding really… This is what I would do;
formal day and evening event – preferred guests only!
formal day but relaxed evening party – preferred guests all day and every on else evening
casual all day – invite everyone, you’ll be so wrapped up in the day you’ll not be bothered that the guy you dislike from the office is there if he even turns up!
Just go for what feels best for you… Your gut is normally right in these situstions!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
You could always say it’s going to be a small wedding with just family. If anything more is said by your boss, I’d crack a joke about getting a raise to be able to afford it. Mind you my bosses are a bit more open to joking that way. Usually if you bring up cost of things people if polite, tend to back off a bit.
Post # 6
LMac499: Don’t mix pleasure and buisness. They are your co-workers. Just tell your boss(es) and co-workers that it’s s small wedding just family and close friends.