Post # 1
I work for a small bank and the branch I am in only has 9 employees. I feel very close to almost all of them and would love to invite them to my wedding. However, there is one employee who I don’t get along with. Not long after I started, I was moved into a position that she thought she would be getting and now she doesn’t like me. She goes out of her way every day to make snarky comments about me and talk about me behind my back. She is the last person that I want to see on my wedding day! Would it be completely terrible for me to invite all of my other coworkers except her?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
You CAN but I think it would just invite invite more snarky comments and behind-back talking, possibly even from the coworkers you do like. It depends how well known your dislike of each other is, and if the others feel the same. Can you predict what the boss would think?
Post # 4
Everyone knows how her and I feel about each other. About half of my coworkers feel the same way about her that I do, however, we are both equally close to our boss.
Post # 5
I would invite her, unfortunately. Hopefully she won’t show up!
Post # 6
I made the big ol’ faux pas by not inviting one person in our 5 person office. She doesn’t care because we don’t like each other. Granted, no one else likes her either, so they all understood why I didn’t.
Post # 7
@MRS_Anderson0426: No, I work with 2 other people and one is not the nicest person. You have to invite them. Who knows, maybe they won’t even go? Inviting everyone you work wiht except her is a bit childish too.
Post # 8
I’m not inviting everyone I work with – just the people I have cultivated relationships outside of work. That includes all but one person in my current work group, and select people outside my work group. I assume that we are all adults and I’m not like handing out invitations during a work meeting. I don’t think it will cause a problem for me because the person I’ve left out won’t even make conversation with me if we are eating lunch at the same time.
Post # 9
@MRS_Anderson0426: If you wouldn’t invite someone over for dinner at your place on a Friday night, they don’t belong at your wedding. She wouldn’t make the cut if I were in your shoes – and not to be snarky or exclusive. It’s your day and everyone sharing it with you should love you and be happy for you.
Post # 10
@Toronto2014: I agree. I wouldn’t be doing it to be snarky or anything. But I don’t want to feel like I have to invite someone to my wedding who I have negative feelings towards.
@Polygon: Thanks for your input. I am mailing my coworkers their invitations in order to avoid being obvious about it.
It is unfortunate that her and I don’t get along but if we didn’t work together she isn’t someone I would ever consider inviting. I do have strong relationships with everyone else and even if I were no longer working here, they would still be invited.