Post # 1
I work in an office of about 30 people. We all get along great, but we all have a few coworkers that we are closer with than others. I would say at least 8 of my coworkers would be upset if they aren’t invited, and the rest probably wouldnt care one way or another. But it’s a small office, small town, half of my coworkers are related somehow, and half are related to people I know outside of work. Although most of them don’t care whether the staff is invited, I think a few of those would be offended if I invited some people and not them.
I’m pretty set on what I will do, but I’m curious what would you do?I
Post # 3
I’m not inviting any current coworkers because we don’t hang out outside of work. I am inviting one former coworker because she and I hang out all the time. If you do not consider the people you work with friends outside of work, do not invite them. A wedding is for friends, not for work buddies.
Post # 4
I would if you’re on good terms with them. My husband wanted to invite some of his co-workers, but we’re getting married in California, and all of them are stationed in Oklahoma.
Post # 5
My fiance and I are both inviting the coworkers (or, since I do consulting and the group of people I’m working with changes frequently, people in the same field) we see outside of work-related events.
Post # 6
Due to our budget we were not able to invite our coworkers, even though we’re close with them. We are both inviting our bosses though and their wives.
Post # 7
I invited 5 people (mainly supervisor and managers) from my work, plus 5 dates for them. It was a hard decision for me becuase I really like everyone I work with, but I haven’t worked there for very long (less than 1 year), so I didn’t want it to be awkward. Well.. inviting just these 5 people was still a little awkward. I haven’t gotten all rsvps back, but now that the invites are out I feel like I’m almost putting them on the spot. I tend to over think things, so it might just be me, haha
Post # 8
I’ve sent STDs to one close co-worker and two former co-workers, because I really want to be there. My FI and I will probably invite a few other co-workers (probably bosses) but we’re hoping they will have other plans as we’re getting married on Labor Day weekend.
Post # 9
I work in a SUPER SMALL office, I have 3 coworkers that I see almost everyday, the rest have offices located in different cities, so I only see them at meetings, etc. I’m inviting the 3 that I see and talk to everyday. I”m glad it is only 3, otherwise I don’t know what I would do.
Post # 10
@Ashley_P: I’m not inviting any. We are only planning on having family and our bridal party, but even when we were planning a bigger wedding I definitely wasn’t inviting any of them. I’m cordial with all of them but I don’t consider any of them friends, and I don’t socialize with them outside of the office. Plus most of them are 20 years older than me.
Post # 11
I plan to invite everyone I work with on a regular basis, because we are fairly close. I consider most of them friends and the ones that aren’t friends I am including to make it fair.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I invited all because it was only 4 and I work in a small office. I think they would have been offended if we hadn’t and assumed they would be invited.
My problems with inviting co workers if you work in a larger company are:
1) Guestlist JUMPS
2) A ton of plus ones that you probably don’t know
3) Who gets invited, who doesnt?
4) Will your employment or relationship with coworkers change from time invites go out to wedding time?
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I have about 15 coworkers and bosses at my small company. I’ll probably just invite everyone, but the wedding is 3.5 hours away from where we live, so I suspect only the couple close friends will come. Which is kind of perfect!
Post # 14
I work for a big company in a corporate environment so it makes it easier for me. I am invited the two co workers one from a previous job, the other who I am friends with outside of work. One of my bosses whom I see as a mentor.
I also don’t talk about my plans at the office, and that makes it easier too.
Post # 15
I invited my entire department and their spouses, plus my then-current and former bosses (my SVP and the CEO) and their assistants and, if applicable, their spouses. Although I was closer with some people from outside my department, I didn’t feel right about inviting most, but not all, of the people in the department.
Post # 16
I’m not inviting any of my coworkers because I don’t have the space to accommodate them. I also don’t want any hurt feelings because I invite so and so and not so and so…so NONE OF YOU get invited. My office is also only about 20 deep and that would be crazy to pick and choose. Everyone knows I’m getting married, and it would be obvious that I didn’t invite certain people. Like one coworker says, “Don’t invite because you don’t want people to know how ‘low you dip it’ and how sloshed you can really get.”
FI, however, has a different situation. He works for the courts, so he has a lot of (literal) politics to deal with. I told him to invite whomever he wants. He’s also about to move up again in the near future, whereas I don’t have much space to move, so he kind of has to invite.