(Closed) Inviting coworkers

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I invited my store manager only because she’s the person I’m closest to at work.  It was a little easier for me though – we have four managers, and since on any given day, two have to be at work (one to open, one to close), that meant since I wasn’t going to be there obviously, only one other person could be out of work.  

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In a strange way I sort of got lucky in regard to inviting co-workers … I was laid off at the end of February. I got a new job fairly quickly … but it’s not like anyone there is expecting me to invite them, since my guest list was already pretty much set when I started my new job. Though now that I’ve been there a while, I do like some of the folks and kind of wish I could include them … so maybe I’ll add my department (nine people + significant others) if we get enough "no" RSVPs.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I made the people I invited from work would keep their invites secret, which were a total of 2 people since I work at a company similar to yours where we have 90 people total (6 of which are in my department, including the receptionist).  I may consider inviting 2 others.  But to not hurt anyone’s feelings, I’ve made sure to tell everyone that because of the cost of the wedding, I’m only inviting family.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would just invite the people you want there.   If someone asks, just say you wish you could invite everyone but there’s only so many people you can invite.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Mr Peng worked in a small office of 6 people, which we couldn’t accomodate. We ended up inviting half of them, the ones that he was closer to.  I know it seems a bit awkward, but you just have to take a deep breath and realize that it’s your wedding, and you should invite who you want to.  If you’re truly concerned, I like PP’s advice of asking the coworkers you do invite to the wedding to not really talk about it… but if it comes up, it’s better not to lie about it and get caught in your lie. Be honest, but try to avoid the conversation, if possible!

Post # 8
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Wannabee

I want to give you all some advice: make sure you invite your boss if you have a good relationship with him or her. I made the mistake of not inviting my boss and she got really offended. I inivted two other people from the office who I am very close to. I didn’t tell them to not mention the wedding, but I guess I just figured it wasn’t a big deal. I figured it was understood. That’s what I do when I get invited to something. I don’t talk about it in front of others because I don’t know if they got inivted or not. 

One of my co-workers that I invited mentioned she was going in front of my boss and I guess my boss got mad. She told the office that they were not buying me a gift because she wasn’t invited and didn’t know where I was registered! Luckily my friend told me about this AFTER the wedding, but it really hurt my feelings and made things awkward at the office. No one congratulated me or acknowleged that I had recently got married. I guess out of fear that my boss would get mad… It was really petty and childish, and I debated on whether or not to talk to my boss about it, but I just let it go. It blew over. I didn’t mean to exculde her on purpose. I’ve only worked for her less than a year and I really only invited close friends and family to my wedding. It really shocked me when I heard she was offended. A word to the wise: invite the boss! 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ladybug 0609- Wow- That is a shame that your boss acted like that! Is she married?? If so, then she should understand that a guest list can not be infinite….there HAS to be an end at some point. Especially in this day in age where the majority of couples are paying for their own weddings, political invitations are a thing of the past. I am sorry you had to go through that! Luckily for you, you said that it eventually blew over, but I bet those few weeks were awkward. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

3 people have been married at my work. We have about 35 employees total. I was not offended, not being invited to their weddings because I know they were closer to other co-workers. I didn’t expect an invite because I say ‘good morning’ to you everyday.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I invited 6 people from work. They are on my team, and I work with them on a daily basis. They are all friends, and have been apart of my wedding planning. I did leave a few people out who are on my team. They are not close with me, and they are people who I don’t care if they were there. Of course I’m sure they will here about who was invited, but I’m not too worried about it. People should know if you appreciate them, like them… want them at your wedding. If they are not invited, they will understand why most often.

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