- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
We’re starting to work out the guest list. Both FI and I have fairly large extended families. We’re trying to keep the guest count around 100, so we have decided to invite aunts and uncles only – no cousins. We have A LOT of cousins, some of which we don’t know well (including some we’ve never met!), so we thought this was a fair solution.
Then I told my mother about our plans. She’s insisting that I invite some of my cousins, the ones I’m closest to. Her argument is that most of my aunts/uncles are either too ill to travel, or do not have the money to travel across the country – so this will free up room to invite some cousins. My issues are (1) although mom is probably right, I don’t want to assume people I invite won’t show up; and (2) I would feel bad if word got out that I invited some cousins but not others – I thought the most fair thing is to invite all cousins or none at all. I don’t want to invite relatives I barely know at the expense of my close friends. Any advice? If it matters – FI and I are paying for the majority of the wedding. Thanks in advance!