- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Our guest list right now sits at just over 100 people. My guests are immediate family, bridal party and their SO’s, my Aunts, Uncles and cousins on my Dad’s side, and several work/college friends. I’m having trouble deciding whether to invite my Mom’s extended family or not, though.
Mom has four brothers and sisters altogether, and I like them okay, it’s just…I’m really not close to any of them. A majority of them I haven’t seen/spoken to in years. Two of them live out of state. One Aunt who lives in-state just got married this month and neither I nor my Mother got an invite (this is like her 4th or 5th marriage, though, so I doubt she had a big wedding). My other Aunt lives pretty close to Mom, but frankly, we can only stand being around her for about five minutes. I mean, she’s very sweet, she’s just crazy and never stops talking, will never stay seated for more than a few minutes at a time, and will tell you the exact same thing over and over and over and over… My grandmother is also crazy – she once accused one of my Aunts of driving 3+ hours to break into her trailer and steal a bottle of ketchup…I swear I’m not making this up.
In addition, most of my Mom’s family are super conservative and religious. My FH is an atheist and we will be having a secular wedding. I really don’t want any of them making snarky/rude comments about it on or after our wedding day. I would hope they would be polite enough to not say anything, but probably one of my uncles and DEFINITELY my grandmother would say something. One of my cousins on that side of the family met my FI once and immediately started into a religious debate with him. :
It’s weird, because I’m really close to my Mom, but not at all close to her family; and I was never close to my Dad (he passed away a few years ago), but I’ve always been close to his family. His sister and brother are basically ol’ hippies, lol.
Would it be super rude to not invite Mom’s family to the wedding but invite my Dad’s family? (Honestly, I doubt most of them would attend anyway, so I’m probably worrying about nothing here.) I asked my Mom about it, and she was like, “Nah, don’t invite them.”, lol. FI and I have basically a drama-free relationship, and we’d like to keep our wedding the same.