(Closed) Inviting extra people to the rehearsal dinner

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I would say, if they pay, they decide.  I would also broach the idea gently of having extra guests paid for by you.  They may want a small rehearsal dinner, and if they are paying, you likely will have to acquiesce.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We sort of had this conversation in the beginning.  We’ll both have a lot of OOT guests, I’ll just have a lot more.  We’ve limited it to my family from India and a few of my parents’ college friends who are travelling and are more or less like family.  B/c he knew this from the beginning, and the bulk is cousins etc, they are still paying for it.  For us, his parents just gave us a budget…and FI pretty much planned the whole thing making sure to pick a venue/catering that would accomodate everyone in that amount.  In our case this wasn’t too difficult b/c the budget was pretty generous.

I would maybe take the budget approach with them.  Also offer to pay if need be (20-30 is a lot of unplanned guests).  It sounds like your FI is confused, but not nec. opposed to the other people.  Most likely his parents will feel the same way.

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