- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
So FI’s parents have graciously offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. FI’s whole family and most of his friends live within an hour of the ceremony location. My whole extended family will be traveling, and many of them will arrive the day before the wedding.
I had intended to invite anyone that was traveling to the rehearsal dinner. That will make our rehearsal dinner about twice as big as if it was just the wedding party. Tha’s how my family has always done rehearsal dinners, simply because its a good way for people to get to visit, and for families to meet, and because it seems rude not to involve people when they travel that far. I would be inviting family only (Aunts, Uncles, cousins)- friends that show up early will have to be on their own, I have to draw the line somewhere!
I told FI about my plans and he was a little confused – but his whole family lives in the area, so their family weddings haven’t had to accomodate travelers. I am anticipating the conversation with FFIL and FMIL, and it seems like a lot of extra finanical burden on them to feed another 20 or 30 people. Should I offer to pay for half of the rehearsal? I don’t want to let them put the kabash on my family coming. How would you approach that?