Post # 1
We’re hopefully on the last stages of working out the guest list… my FI’s grandma just asked if we were inviting the family of the best man and groomsman. His best man is his college roommate and best friend, and his groomsman is his best friend from high school. we have both met the BM’s family once or twice, and i’ve met the GM’s family once (obviously the FI has met them more than that.)
we’re trying to keep our guest list small… but is it traditional to invite their families? my MOH and BM are my FI’s sisters, so we don’t have this issue on my side… i just don’t want anyone to feel slighted by not being invited!
Post # 3
I’ve never know it to be.
We are inviting one of the families (mom and dad) of the groomsmen but it;s because he’s my FI’s BIL and they come to all family functions as we’re very close to them.
Otherwise no, we’re not inviting the familes of the BM’s or GM
Post # 4
I would invite the families of the GMs/BMs only if you feel you are actually friends with the families. Otherwise not. For younger members of the wedding party (ring bearer, flower girl) you obviously have to invite the parents (but not brothers/sisters). But as long as your GM is old enough to drive himself to the ceremony, you’re not obligated to invite his parents.
If your FI’s family is really good friends with the GMs family, they should have had them on their list of folks to invite. If not, then clearly (to be blunt about it) nobody is sufficiently close enough to want them there for any reason other than that their son is in the wedding.
I have gone to a couple of weddings only because my FSD (future step-daughter) was in the wedding party, mostly to keep her father company. Basically you are just buying a present and spending all afternoon/evening on a weekend sitting around with a bunch of folks you don’t know, in order to see your daughter in an unattractive dress that you paid too much for and you know she’ll never wear again… not our idea of a good time (and possibly not for your GMs family either). Next time we’ll take pictures on the way out the door, just like prom, and have ourselves a really nice evening out with the money we would have spent on a present!
Post # 5
I’d only invite them if you feel close to them.
No worries if you aren’t – it’s not a faux pas or anything to not invite them!
Post # 6
I am inviting the parents of one of my BMs and the Mom (and possibly dad) of my MOH. But, I am only inviting them because I’m close to them. My MOH has been my BF since 1st grade and I spent as much time there when I was growing up as I did at home. MOH Mom and I exchange e-mail occasionally and Christmas cards. BM and I lived together for over 3 years. During that time her parents (sepecially her dad) frequently stayed with us for a week or so at a time. They now live halfway across the country and probably won’t attend but I want to invite them because they treat me like another daughter (they have 4 already). I am not inviting the parents of one of my other BMs. While I know her parents and like them I do not know them well enough to invite them to the wedding. My other BMs are sisters of either my FI or myself.
The groomsmen are brothers of either my FI and myself and 3 friends. We have no intention of inviting the parents of any of the three friends. There may be onbe exception but she probably will not travel to the wedding.
nothing says that you need invite anyone other than the spause or SO of the bridal party unless they are underage. If you have a child in the wedding then parents should be invited.
Post # 7
thanks guys! maybe this is etiquette for 50 years ago, when FI’s grandma got married… but glad to hear it’s not traditional now. 🙂 i like both of the families, but i just don’t know them well enough to invite them over closer relatives or friends we both know.