(Closed) Inviting family that you don’t like?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Nola: I wouldn’t invite her. Sounds like way too much drama (from her mother also) than you need to deal with!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Depends on the family member. In your situation, I might not of invited her…but that would’ve meant not giving anyone a heads up, and only inviting the mom. If you invite the cousin’s siblings, I would invite her. Otherwise, there might be more problems.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No way! It’s your day.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I don’t think you have to invite anyone who might make you uncomfortable on your wedding day, nor someone anyone else may have to babysit. Don’t be guilted or bullied into inviting someone you don’t want there.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you’re not close to them and it’s not going to ruin your day if they’re not there then don’t do it.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I definitely wouldn’t invite her.. especially if she has trouble controlling her bahavior when she’s drinking. You do NOT want that at your reception! I would probabaly pull back on talking to her mom about it though. Just try to handle it calmly and without too much argument. if it comes again, I would just say “that’s our decisison and I’m sorry if you don’t agree with it.” You can still invite the mom if you feel that she won’t cause a problem because of this issue, but expect her to decline if she feels threatened. Basically, I would just shrug it off and try not to let them bother you any more thatn they have to.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think there’s a difference between inviting family members you don’t like and inviting family members who actually have the potential to ruin your day. I’ll be inviting some family members that I don’t really like, but I doubt I’ll even notice them that day, and they’re not ones to cause drama. In your situation though, where your cousin’s presence may really take away from your enjoyment of your wedding day, I would do exactly what you did and not invite her. Read Mrs. Socks’ recent posts on the blog if you need more reason not to invite family members that will bring the drama.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Pb+j I completely agree. These family members sound like nothing but trouble. I think it is wise not to invite them. If I were you, I wouldn’t.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

I agree with pb and j as well. Your cousin sounds horrendous and you dont want the stress of her potentially ruining part of your wedding day hanging over your head. In my case, I have a couple of relatives who are real wet blankets and criticize everything I do. I cant stand them, but Im inviting them because I really dont think I will even notice their attitudes during the day and inviting them will keep the peace.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

If you aren’t close to someone, don’t invite them.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Uhh I have a psycho cousin like this… He’s not invited. Don’t feel bad!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would never not invite one cousin, but invite their siblings. That is just me, though. If you don’t like her, you don’t have to invite her. But your other cousins also have the right not to show up if they are offended. I know I would be if my siblings were invited and I wasn’t, or vice versa. Also, my parents would probably not come if one of their children wasn’t invited and the others were.  As long as you are ok with that possibility, then I think its fine. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m inviting a cousin that I dont like because its much less drama to just invite her. Having said that, she isnt really the type to make a scene or anything so am not expecting anything crazy from her at the wedding

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