Post # 1
Im just wondering if you think im being oversensitive. My husband wants to invite a couple friends he has to the wedding but what makes me uncomfortable is that he tried to date them (before we were together of course) before but they said no, however they just remained friends..
Anyways, ive expressed my awkwardness towards this situation and he insists on inviting them because they are friends.
Opinions on this situation???
Also its not like I know they would even come but still. Am I oversensitive about this?
Post # 3
You can approach it two ways: combative and insecure, or you can be mrs. confidence and give everyone a reason to say “wow he ended up with a world class girl!”
Up to you, but I’d say the latter is a lot more fun (and smug). 😀 😀
Post # 4
@Sugarpug2012: +1. Remember that confidence and trust are very sexy to a man 🙂
I think the fact that these women have been his friends since before you two got together is a big reason that they should be invited. Just think of them as his friends because that’s exactly what they are. They’re not even exes because he never dated them.
Post # 5
I dont think you are lacking confidence and trust to not want him to invite them. I can’t imagine inviting men that I once wanted to be with to my wedding, I would feel disrespectful to Fiance doing so.
Post # 6
I would feel weird about it, but probably let it happen. It’s not like he dated them long term, they all turned him down.
Post # 7
My Fiance has a couple of friends that he had major crushes on back in the day, and they are coming to the wedding. These things happen, and when you are young, close friends often develop feelings for each other. I’m really not too worried about it – some of them are now married to other people!
I’d say just be cool and let him invite them. He probably just wants to show off what a great girl he ended up with 😉
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I don’t think it’s a problem if they are friends and have never dated, even if he had some interest back then.. he has you! You are the one for him and you are the one he is marrying! And if you are worried about his friends, they were not interested then and will not be now.
Post # 9
We invited a couple of girls to our wedding that could have fit this description. I didn’t feel weird about it all, because, as posters above had said, they were definitely more his friends than exes. Plus the girls in question are married now.
Also, I have been invited to the wedding of a guy friend who tried to date me once, but I turned him down. He was a good friend of mine in college, as was his wife. (Actually, funny story, he asked me out in FRONT of his future wife before they got together! We were all friends in college. I heartily turned him down and we all remained friends.) I’m so glad they invited me, because it was a fun wedding! We all still get together every now and then.
I approach more of…what’s in the past is in the past! He’s with YOU, he chose YOU!
Post # 10
you guys are all very right! I think im worrying my silly head over nothing : )) Thank you so much!
Post # 11
My fiance’s best “man” is his ex-girlfriend. They were friends, dated for a while, realised it was a mistake, broke up, and remained friends. I don’t see an issue with it, personally.
Post # 12
yeah I agree with most of the replies here, though it might bother me just a little I would say he’s marrying me, chose me and just enjoy your special day
Post # 13
Naw I don’t think you’re being overly sensitive. I know if it was me, I personally wouldn’t feel that comfortable with it. I think it also depends on their history (if any) though. How would your fiance feel if you wanted to invite some of your past love interests to your wedding?
Post # 14
I don’t thib, you’re being over sensitive, but if they never went on the date and no hanky panky took place then maybe keep that in mind and hold you’re beautiful head high.
Post # 15
i met one of my bridesmaids because she was hitting on my boyfriend (not my FH) and he brought me to the store hoping she would get the hint. We’ve been great friends ever since (he turned out to be an ass).
If they’re not exes and they’ve been friends for years and you have no problem with them being friends why would them attending the wedding be an issue?