- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Has anyone invited someone as its “easier” to invite them than to not?
Basically, I have a friend who used to be one of my best friends, and was important when I was getting to know my Fiance. In the past year and a half, I’ve found that she is really good at meeting people and socializing to the point where people like her when they see her out at a function, but I see her as manipulative and that she sees things in black and white and her way. If I wasn’t getting married in 6 months, I would let this friendship die a natural death. But planning a wedding brings the crazy to the forefront, as we all know 🙂
Also, she is expecting an invite. Over the summer (before I did the official guestlist and was still thinking about salvaging this) we were at a party, and she was talking about how she was excited for my wedding and that she and 3 mutual friends were going to tour the area the week before. Now, turns out the 2 guys (a Groomsmen and a close buddy of mine) involved had been planning to do this and she found out and invited herself and another lady along. I had to tell her that due to space, the other lady probably would not be invited… to which she replied “then she’ll be my plus one”. (wait, did you just invite someone to my wedding???) I had to tell her that again, because of space, we are not going to have plus ones…. to which she said “we’ll just have to figure out how to get her there then when you have people decline”. I got out of the conversation and have avoided wedding talk with her since then.
So the point of all of this:
Right now I’m leaning towards inviting her to not deal with 1) the drama of not inviting her as she will freak and cause a scene plus I don’t want to deal with people asking about where she is the day of as her presence will be “missed” and 2) its better to invite her and hope she won’t show then to have her crash (the advice from a couple close friends, INCLUDING Maid/Matron of Honor who finds this woman, a bm in her wedding, toxic).
But I don’t want to 🙂
Have you dealt with this, and how did it resolve? Thanks ladies!!!!