Post # 1
Due to budget FH and I decided from the beginning on a guest list of 100. We would split it 50/50 and if he went over his family would have to pay for the extra people. We are currently at (and paid for) 115, FH went over. I just found out that 3 people will not be attending the wedding on my side (which puts me under 50). I’ve felt bad from the beginning that FH wasn’t able to invite ANY of his friends because being the passive guy he is, he didn’t want to upset his parents by telling them no to people. So I was thinking of extending an invite via facebook to a friend of his and his fiance. I just don’t know how to phrase it. I want to explain that FH wasn’t able to invite him in the first place because of his parents but now I would like him there…but I’m afraid no matter what that comes off as tacky and maybe I should just leave it alone and not invite them…thoughts?
Post # 3
If they are good friends, they would already know how FI is and they wouldn’t mind. Me personally, I don’t care. I’ve been B list invited and I was totally okay with it.
Post # 4
I’ve also been a B-list invited guest and I totally didn’t mind.
Post # 5
@bRooklynRocks: Thats a really good point. They know him as a very laid back person.
I think they’ll be excited to come too, they are getting married in the same place in September.
Post # 6
Depends who you ask. Some get HELLA offended, some don’t.
I think though if you can explain how hard it initially was and how since space allows you’d love for them to come, it’s a little more acceptable. I wouldn’t mind either.
Although I don’t think it should be a surprise, your FI should be the one to invite them, not you and you should not be as impersonal as FB invite. FI should call, explain and invite via phone, or in person.
Post # 7
If they are close friends, I wouldn’t think it’s that big of a deal. I would be okay with it.