(Closed) Inviting his CO?

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

sorry, maybe it’s just too early in the morning for me, but what are CO and XO? Embarassed

Post # 5
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My husband just reported to his ship in Norfolk, VA- I see your husband’s point, but I would definitley reconsider inviting the CO, especially if you are friendly with his wife. Even though they are PCSing I’m fairly certain his CO’s wife would appreciate the thought 🙂

Post # 6
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Invite the old ones.. and if they say no they say no. Its the thought that counts and tell your FH this. Dont however feel obligated to invite the XO. He doesnt know you both so it wont bother him if they didnt get an invite 🙂

Post # 7
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would respect your FI’s wishes. My Fiance is USAF and he was adamant not to include anything having to do with the military. It’s his job, and he wants to get away from it when he can. Observing all the etiquette associated with ranks and such can be a hassle sometimes.

Post # 9
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I said this over on your other post…..I’ll copy it over here:

If he is adamant about not inviting his bosses, why are you pushing this? Because of etiquette? Military stuff is different–your Fiance probably doesn’t want to have to act formal around his military bosses. There’s a type of decorum involved in this. I know inviting any of DH’s bosses at the time (Dh was the XO to give you an idea), it would have been a buzz kill. Just invite the ChEng if you want to because, after all, you are friends with his wife. But, i think it IS pointless if you know they won’t come! We didn’t bother inviting ANY of DH’s military buddies (even the guys he was deployed with) b/c he said “they can’t make it anyways, i don’t want to make them feel like they need to buy us a gift due to an invitation”.

I would not invite any of them! Inviting her DOES mean inviting her husband, but does not mean inviting anyone else.

I dunno, having the Commanding Officer at your wedding is a big deal. Respect your husband’s wishes…it’s not the same as a manager or executive manager at a regular company.

Having the CO there would be very uncomfortable. You have to follow decorum in uniform and i imagine all the guys IN uniform will probably be on edge a little with their big time bossman right there. You can still have a military wedding yet not want your CO there.

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